I had a guy friend over the other night and we've always just been friends but like eachother in a special way and even though we flirt we have not done anything together. One of my girl pals came over that I sleep and he wanted to watch us which I didn't want to but he insisted on wanting to see us together so against my better judgement I let him... After me and her had our fun he kindof looked at me in certain ways that made me feel uncomfortable but the whole time he watched he had nothing but smiles on his face which was kindof a turn on and I guess i'm just confussed and now he insists on being around me without any females comeing over when we hang out but we are only friends.. I just don't get it... He was so eager to watch me but then acted weird... Help is all I can say... And I feel very dirty now and don't get it because we are only friends..
2006-11-01 00:32:13 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you put him into shock. Most guys only dream of seeing what you showed him. Youu fulfilled one of his fantasies. I'm sure another one of his fantasies is to Stoink you.
2006-11-01 00:36:22 · answer #1 · answered by WyoHunter 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a very personal act. It is intimate and ties directly into our sense of identity - who it is we see ourselves to be.
Sex is also very powerful, and others may use sex to control us.
It may be that the enjoyment your male friend was displaying was due to the control which he was exercising over you - making you do something that you normally would not do.
A true friend would never play on your vulnerability in such a way. This male friend sounds like someone you should not be spending time with, as he obviously doesn't respect you or your dignity.
Under such circumstances, it is right for you to feel 'dirty' and violated.
It would be best for you to put this experience behind you and learn from it - placing yourself in a similar situation in the future will only result in the same feeling again.
Perhaps you should also think about why you feel such a strong need to please others - even against your better judgement.
Surrounding yourself with friends who care, respect and protect you would be far better than spending time with someone who uses you for his own selfish entertainment.
2006-11-01 08:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by localdude76 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You made a choice!! to say that you did it because he insisted is foolish because against your better judgement you did in fact make the choice yourself. 1 because you wanted to be with the female in which had fun with. 2 you like this guy more than what your willing to allow yourself see and feel and allowing him to watch was your way of letting him see that your willing to sacrifice a little self respect or dignity to pleasure him.
Nevertheless, Hold no regrets for it and look deeper into yourself for the answers to how you truely feel for the guy or even the female.
2006-11-01 08:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by 4mika 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does be together mean. Tied up, sleeping, walking, sitting? If you have entered into the sexual realm with your guy friend, it will be a very long time before you will be friends again. Believe me.
You need to talk to him about your feelings. Let him know that you will or will not enter into a relationship with him. If he does not like what he hears probably the end of your friendship.
You feel dirty because you have gone beyond your boundaries and values.
2006-11-01 08:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by Triestobewise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By letting your friend watch you do sexual acts you took the relationship out of the friendship stage. Think what you would do if you saw him with another guy or woman. That image would come up everytime you saw him in your mind and might cloud anything you further do with that person. The reason you feel "dirty" is because your subconsious is telling you what you did was wrong. I think you may have to stop being friends with him.
2006-11-01 08:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mark S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People often "think" something is kewl, but when they are faced with it don't find it so great anymore...you were his friend, and now he's seen you be sexual with a woman...it's changed his view of you (even if he already knew you took female lovers)...
Don't mix friendship with sex (even voyeurism) unless you are prepare for the repercussions...he thought he could handle what he was going to see, but apparently although he might have really dug the girl-on-girl thing, he wasn't as keen afterward, having seen YOU (his friend) in an intimate scenario...
Give it time...he may relax and put it behind him...but if I were you, I'd hesitate before allowing other friends a window into your sex life...now you've seen what can happen...
2006-11-01 08:36:32 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants a threesome and he is feeling weird about asking you since you've been friends for so long. Usually threesomes happen between people who has already established a sexual relationship with each other. I bet you he wishes he made a move on you before he begged you for this.You should never regret anything you do in bed. You should never do things that you are not 100% comfortable with in bed. Next time you see him tell him that you feel a little strange about that time and ask him what he wants.
2006-11-01 08:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Chillypepers 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems u made a mistake. No big deal, live and learn. He will no longer see you the way he did before and it seems made him very uncomfortable as well otherwise he would not ask that you have no other females around. U could Talk about it or just ignore it and move on either way, its made things change. Sorry!
2006-11-01 08:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow buddy well all i can say is not many friends of oppodite sex get to do that kinda stuff with eachother so i'm sure he was ahpppy (no doubt) but it may have been wierd cause he didnt know how much further u wanted the relatioship to go and plus he may have been upset he wasnt physically involved
2006-11-01 09:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised that while watching he was not masturbating, maybe that was the strange look you saw, he was in so much agony trying to hide his erection.
Give him another chance, and tell him it's okay to j**k off while he watches.
You sound like a great friend, he is very lucky to have you.
2006-11-01 08:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by loser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men always want to watch lesbians making love,they think it's very sexy and it turns them on,but the thing is that they don't like their women to be bysexual,but pure and devoted to them.he was interested in u,he liked watching u,but now he is kept away from doing something with u because this picture is in his mind.perhaps u could talk to him,or else go on and don't bother.it depends on what u feel
2006-11-01 08:41:33 · answer #11 · answered by sotiria 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋