I'm 18.I live with my parents.My daughter A. is 11 months old and lives with me.My boyfriend(A.'s father) lives with his parents.We don't get on well with each-other these days.I want to break up with him.We'll remain friends if we break up.What is the best way to do it?He will want to see his daughter.What should I do?How to break up?
2006-11-01 00:27:19 · 11 answers · asked by luisa g 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Only you and he (and maybe both your parents) will know the answer to this. Ask them for their opinions.
2006-11-01 00:28:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with him and set up an arraingment for sharing custody of the child and tell him that you need sometime to just be friends because being a young mom is overwhelming you right now.
that takes the pressure off him for the relationship between you 2. You can not take his parental rights away just because you 2 do not get along. Plus i will let you know that no matter the age relationships are bumpy and will have disagreements and having kids just makes the stress even worse.
I can say this for i am married with 2 kids 1 is 9 and in talent pool at school the other is6 and has autism. i am 30 and can tell you being in a relationship with a kid is hard. You can do it yuo are younger then i and i bet you will get it done in a great way
2006-11-01 01:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to sit down and have a serious talk. Discuss child support and visitation. If he is a good father, you wouldn't want to keep him from his daughter. Nor would you want to keep your daughter from her daddy. Little girls love their daddies! You might want to invite both sets of parents to join the discussion and help you make plans. You are doing the right thing for both of you to end the relationship if there is no love.
2006-11-01 00:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well ,first things first. He is not going to be happy about this brk up. but you must take care of yourself and your little lady.:-).
try to talk to him without a fight tone in your voice and let him talk and you listen to what he has to say. but also remenber that if you stay calm he will too ( hopfully) just let him know that he will still be a part of his daughter life no matter what but as for you , you want some space. Who knows maybe in a few years you and him will mature more and get back together. but if not that is ok too. take care
2006-11-01 00:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by mykids4me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's just not working for you, and that you need to adjust your priorities, you need to finish school or go to college or get a job to move out on your on. my sister broke it off wuth her fiancee of 5 years and they have 2 kids together, she simply said, I need to be there for my children and I need to show them I am a better mom. I can't do that with you, take care and you still need to be a father no matter what.
2006-11-01 01:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has the right to see his daughter, you have the right to child support. I suggest seeking the services of a lawyer because this can get messy.
2006-11-03 21:41:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well discuss how you feel with him. Remember though that he has just as much of a right to see his child as you do. Good luck
2006-11-01 00:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by tay_jen1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just easily explain to him that you two need to go your separate ways. Tell him that when he comes over, just come to visit his child. You two don't have to sleep together anymore, though. I mean, if you still do.
2006-11-04 17:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ust tell him it is not working out for you. You need to stay on good terms with him so he can be a part of your daughter's life.
2006-11-01 00:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's over..i don't think this is working out....i want some time without you..of course you can see your child...
2006-11-01 00:35:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋