The problem is my boyfriend and i do not argue much, however when we do, it is always me who has to make up. he is so stubborn, he is clearly in the wrong, and always hurts me. i always make up because i cant stand being without him, and i know if i dont make up, we will never talk, because he is that stubborn!!! do i just carry on making up, accepting that it was my fault, when it clearly was not or do i stand my ground and wait for him to realise that he was wrong, even though i know he wont? when we do make up, it is always worth it, but i just wish he would do it sometimes!
2006-10-31 23:04:20 · 14 answers · asked by Sexy S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone has their negative attributes and we must learn to overcome them and appreciate their human value. On the other hand, stubborn people are just lame. Their is no room for growth, and you know what I mean. If you are satisfied with supplicating and being in this position you are in for the reast of your life, then stay, if it bothers you in the least, the grass is greener...
2006-10-31 23:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to ask yourself are you arguing over little petti things or not? Try and discuss the problem together. Each of you has a side to the story which is important. He may not be a bloke who like to open up? How does he make you do the making up? Maybe have a calling off period that doesn't mean break up it means make some more time for you. I call it thinking time and you both should realise how much you appreciate each other.
2006-10-31 23:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get into this habit - in the end he will realise that he can act however he want and you will keep forgiving him whatever! He's leaving it without saying anything because he knows you will come to him. When he is definately in the wrong let the situation calm down for a while and then tell him that you don't want to argue but what he did/said hurt you and why. Don't accept that it is your fault if it isn't!
2006-10-31 23:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by Juniper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a stand, and make him realise that he can't always be in the right. How wrong is that? If you constantly are the one to make up with him, you will eventually end up resenting him for it. And if he can't compromise, even when this is obviously upsetting you, what sort of relationship have you got? He sounds like a jerk, to be honest. Sorry to be blunt, but it is true. You're just going to end up as a doormat to him, if you carry on giving in to him all the time. He obviously doesn't respect you enough to appreciate your point of view, even if he doesn't agree with it. A relationship is about compromise, he should realise that! Ditch him, babe, he's not worth it!
2006-10-31 23:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by iwatchedthestarsfallsilently 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you have taught him that if he holds out on you long enough that you will come running to make up even if he is in the wrong. Girl you have some hard times ahead of you. Next time stand your ground and if he doesnt make up well...then he is not worth keeping I say. A person who is unwilling to admit they have made a mistake and holds you emotionally hostage has problems that you dont need any part of.
2006-10-31 23:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by dragonrider707 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this is a small but significant form of control. He will never admit to being wrong, or apologise for his wrongs while you accept all blame and say sorry. Basicaly he can do whatever he pleases, because you will always take the fall for it. It will only get worse, in a few years you will be amazed by what you will be saying sorry for.
2006-10-31 23:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by Chickette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not always the be the one who tries to fix the problem. Most men are not great at saying "im sorry" it's their ego..But I'm sure some mean it when something does get out of hand. And most men want space after a little blow out.. But for practice, you should just wait for him to come up with some kind of *** kissing technique.
2006-10-31 23:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by ladymember 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If making up is not worth it, what is there in the relationship? If he is causing you all these anguish, weigh your option. I know it is easier said than done. But, I still believe short term pain is better than long term misery. Maybe you should find another boyfriend. Get to know more people.
2006-10-31 23:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by Tortee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 02:04:49 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur making it too easy for him, If you always make the first mood he can get away with whatever he wants.
give him a bit of his own medicine, you may discover another side to his personality
2006-10-31 23:48:47 · answer #10 · answered by rybo_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋