Even though my brother is young (9) I understand my mom wants to play with him. But she acts too childish sometimes and it gets on my nerves. And she is soo demanding and when I try to cancel plans with her (my parents are divorced, I live with my dad), she gets upset and makes you feel sorry for her and I go back with her. As a teenager, I want to go out and have fun with my peeps but, with divorced parents, I have no control.
2006-10-31 22:24:16 · 15 answers · asked by Jessica D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The serious problem is, I have to babysit for my brother all the time, I'm in single gender classes (meaning I'm in all girls classes) and I miss all my friends, they even keep secrets from me now. By the time my parents get home, 1) We eat dinner 2) We have family time (which is sometimes not even 2 hours) 3) when they get home it's dark, so I can't go see my friends. And every weekend I go to my mom's so I don't get to hang out with friends. It's very rare. My mom goes on small trips every other month with her boyfriend but that's it. Even then, my dad wants me to spend time with him.
2006-11-01 07:41:08 · update #1
again its a shame when people get divorced their kids are always the ones who get hurt, one way or another. i hope you can remember that this is not your fault. just remember that they are your parents. you have no control over your parents, but, you do have control over yourself. honey, be patient, you need to learn how to space your time w/ all concerned, and you will. make the best time w/ your mom. you'll be an adult soon enough.
by the way, make sure you learn some lessons, from your parents. so you don't make the same mistakes......God bless ya
2006-10-31 23:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by CINTHIA C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u tried telling your mom how u feel about how she acts with your younger brother?? You need to talk with your mom and try and make her understand that u have needs in your life as a teenager. That u do love her and nothing would ever change that. But u also need your friends. Friends are very important, i feel, in a divorce situation. They are the ones u can really talk too and be yourself. I can also understand where your mother is coming from. She doesn't want to lose u like she lost your dad (her husband). I was a divorced mom, with two teenagers so i know that feeling. But have learned that if u love your mom and explain to her that nothing will ever come between you and her, she might then understand.
2006-11-01 06:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by kittymeow63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to cancel those plans with your mom. It sounds like she may be very much in need of someone strong in her life. Fact is, and this is very ironic, but it sounds a lot like my situation with my mom when I was your age and had a younger brother, too. I did come to determine my mom has had mental problems all her life. Today at 68 she is the same way. I only get through it all because I keep telling myself it is due to her mental illnesses and she can't really help that. (You can't abandon a sick mom. If you know what I mean. She may not be the mom you see on tv, or anything at all like the mom's that your friends have....but she is the mom that God chose for you and he has reasons...many you may not be aware of as yet. Fact is, my firstborn son has many special needs. He is autistic, as one of them. He is an awesome child and I am so glad that I was "taught" patience.
I sometimes wonder the reason I am such a good parent to my children is because I was taught by my mom everything what NOT to do to a child. At the same time, I believe by having such an upbringing that it invariably taught me how to love, and overlook the differences in those that are not as emotionally healthy as the rest of us and to be darn glad that I am emotionally healthy. By that thinking you can accomplish anything in life.
Remember, your mom needs you as much as you need her and may not realize it yet. She will have her special moments in your life and you will sit back and say "wow, who would have guessed?" Take care and spend that time with mom.
2006-11-01 06:32:23 · answer #3 · answered by latte_dbl_shot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is probablly feeling guilt from the divorce and wants to spend time with you and your brother. It's called love. And like was said before, you are a teenager, you don't get control of your life, that's what you have parents for. Trust me, you will miss your mom when you don't have her around to be there for you at all.
2006-11-01 06:30:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with her and explain that you would like a chance to be a teenager and hang out with your friends once in awhile. You also need to spend time with her also, you don't want her to feel left out of your life, but she may understand that you would like to hang out with your friends sometimes also.
2006-11-01 06:28:26 · answer #5 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult when parents are divorced. If you would like to go out with your friend, is it possible to go on a day which you don't have to see your Mum. If it is not possible tell her that you would really like to go out with your friends and will make it up to her another day, but do make it up so she will let you go the next time. Gd Luck.
2006-11-01 06:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rememeber, you have plenty of time for your friends but you family will always be there for you. Your mother just misses you thats all. You need to understand her from her piont of view, You don't live with her anymore and it hurts her to be away from you. You need to make one day a week family day and spend as much time with your mum and brother as you can. You have school and everyother day for your friends.
2006-11-01 06:32:54 · answer #7 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very selfish and mean to be criticizing your mom tht way. There are millions of kids out there whose parents don't spend any time at all with them. Yours loves you and wants tobe withyou. >Life is much shorter than you realize so love your mom and spend time with her and stop being so critical
2006-11-01 07:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by Mica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend time with your mom, talk to her about your feelings on wanting to go out, give her time and give your friends time, you dont have to hang out with your friends every night...in 2 years you probably wont even talk to any of them anymore...but you will still have your mom
2006-11-01 06:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grate full person aren't you. I can understand why you don't want to know your family. I hope your mum is too busy with her friends if you ever need her. Sad, sad very, very bad. My daughter is a lovely girl.
2006-11-01 06:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋