Body Deterioration?

Question

Im seriously, losing the will to live ! Since having my first child, 5yr ago at 40yrs of age,my body seems to have gone into "meltdown" ! From Head to Toe, i have a problem with everything on my body, except my Belly Button ! I havent got a life with my little one,as too tired all the time !It is killing me physically & now i fear "Depression" is kicking in,due to the fact, that all these so-called "Professionals", havent helped me in the slightest. Am now 3yrs on, from when i first went to Doctors for help, & dont know if i am strong enough to take much more,of their incompetence !Could i ask,does anyone know " Can you ADMIT yourself into Hospital ?" please, please help !

Answer 1

This is a drawback of having kids later in life, you just don't always have the energy. Tell your GP you need anti depressants.
Then go from there, you have to get yourself feeling better first.

Answer 2

Yes, you CAN admit yourself as a psychiatric in-patient.

BUT you'd then have a whole lot of other dopey doctors to handle ! (I've nothing against doctors, but they can be as stupid and insensitive as anybody else. It's a bit of a lottery)

As well as some GENTLE exercise, which can help a lot in restoring 'the will to live', you might benefit from getting some boxing gloves and a PUNCHBAG (or taping a good firm chair cushion to the wall).

Believe it or not, using up a lot of energy in one go, can increase the amount of energy your body makes available. Thinking about
all the things that are getting you down while you use the punchbag, (give yourself permission to feel angry) can help you to feel less helpless.

Depending on your personality, you might be able to do the same thing by using other exercises; some people 'pound the pavement' (in well padded running shoes) to get the negative feelings 'off their chest'.

Talking to others in the same situation can really help, too. A lot of the new mums you know will be 'putting on a brave face' and feeling a lot like you do, behind the scenes. If you can get together with some other 'older mothers', they'll probably be more honest about what's going on, and less 'kiddie-competitive', than the mainstream girls who are just getting on with it because 'it's what you do, innit'

It's easy to believe that your body will inevitably deteriorate after 30, or after 40 or whatever; BUT IT JUST ISN'T TRUE. If you can just have some faith that it will make a difference, then the psychological and physical benefits of joining a self-defence class or doing some regular yoga practice, WILL start to show pretty soon.

Answer 3

Hi Kimberley - sorry you're feeling so rough at the moment. I don't think you can admit yourself to hospital, but no harm in going to Casualty and trying. (My daughter is a Casualty Nurse and will not thank me for suggesting this!) Without knowing your condition/s it is impossible to suggest more than this.

In my mid forties my body suddenly "went" as well. Here is something which helped me.

Gentle exercise. I'm not talking about the gym, I'm talking about walking. Start with a 10 minute walk every day, for a trip when you might have taken the car. Take the little one with you, walking is a wonderful opportunity to talk and nurture your relationship. S/he will remember those walks for the rest of their life. Nothing strenuous. Gradually increase the length of your walks. This will increase your seratonin levels and you may be able to do without the anti depressants. You will sleep better cos your body will be tired, and gradually any surplus weight will drop off.

I'm sure you don't smoke or drink to excess, but if you do - well, you know what I'm going to say, don't you ? Lay off the junk food, too.

And if you don't trust doctors, avoid them ! Take responsibility for your own health.

Look after yourself, take care and good luck

Answer 4

This is a case of extreme post natal depression which has been ignored and left to manifest. You need to see another doctor, tell him/her about this and start a medication regime to help you get through asap.

You can present yourself at the nearest A & E department and be assessed by a Psychiatrist. However, you will not be admitted to a psych ward unless you are a danger to yourself and/or others. If this were to happen, who would look after your child? Do you have a partner or family for support? You need to be clear about what you want to acheive from this before you go asking.

Go back to a sympathetic and understanding GP and start the ball rolling from there. And be honest with them.

Answer 5

Of course you can admit yourself into the hospital,but what for are we talking deppession?You need to get a series of blood tests,see if anything comes up.Maybe you have chronic fatigue syndrome,fibromyalgia or something of that nature which is very hard for a doctor to pinpoint.Believe me I have autoimmune problems and its frustrating with doctors.Research your symptoms,sometimes your,your own best doctor.If you have insurance and you feel that bad by all means go to the hospital and try to make them get to the bottom of how you feel,This cant be any good for you or your child.

Answer 6

no need for hospital all you need is a good night sleep.is there anyone who would take your son for the weekend.i:ve been where you are. my sister had my two for the weekend .it done me the power of good .my sister had the children one weekend a mouth

Answer 7

Please try to accept the situation in which you live in. Avoid sleepless nights. Consume the food at hand do not expect too much. Lastly do not forget to pray.

Answer 8

its a matter of setting your mind and having positive outlook in life. you exercise so you will feel better and count your blessings for you to have a happy disposition in your life