new parent and i am worried about telling my son lies. (I was so disapointed when i found out aged 31) so i know there was a bit of truth was he real? does he live in the north pole? should i stick with tradition and lie to my child ? p.s. he is only 2 months old
2006-10-31 21:12:14 · 27 answers · asked by tank 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
This goes to the heart of your style of parenting.
Personally, I think you should teach your child whatever it is that you believe to be TRUTH.
Part of the truth is that the LEGEND of Santa Claus does exist, whether you not you believe there actually is such a person. And the Legend does exist, no matter how any of us feel about it.
SO even if you do not teach your child that there is a mysterious, red cheeked, fat bellied, red suited jolly man that travels around the world in a sleigh that by the laws of physics should burn up in the Earth's atmosphere (just as the Space Shuttle Columbia did) and is pulled by otherwise unheard of flying Caribou (Reindeer) without wings --
You can still acknowledge that the images and the stories will appear each Christmas season.
You can teach the truth as you see it - and still acknowledge the legend. But Remember -regarding Santa Claus and EVERYTHING else - your task is to teach what you believe to be TRUTH.
2006-10-31 21:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by me 7 · 7⤊ 5⤋
Awh, sweet! I kind of understand your dilemma, but if your babe is only 2 months old you've got plenty of time to worry about that! Its gonna be his first Christmas, its so special for you to enjoy the moment of being a parent at Christmas! Enjoy talking about Santa to him in a couple of years thats when children start to get most excited, plus then you can do all the writing letters to santa, talking about reindeers and visting him in his grotto! As a mum myself, I find Santa is a very useful bargaining tool for mis-behaving little people on the run up! I found out he was a myth when I was 7, someone at school told me, by then I was a bit sceptical over the whole thing anyhow. Its still nice to believe he may be out there though in his log cabin in the North Pole! P.S. Telling your child about santa is not lying, its making Christmas fun!
2006-11-03 10:23:11 · answer #2 · answered by Chicky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly - if you REALLY think about it - Santa Claus IS real. He comes from the heart.
I know that there really isn't the "real" Santa - but I still believe. Santa comes in many forms - mommies, daddies, grandmas, grandpas, aunts, uncles...
So technically you aren't lying to your child - because you would be "Santa" - the only part that isn't true about Santa is the physical being of him.
My daughter is 3 months old and I'm telling her about Santa - because I still believe in Santa to this day - aside from religious reasons - Santa is the spirit of Christmas. He keeps parents and children young.
Santa lives at the North Pole with his wife "Mrs. Claus", and his reindeer, Rudolph being the main dude.
2006-10-31 21:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one lie I think u'd be forgiven for I personally don't know anyone who's disowned a parent through them lying about the magic of Santa. To me it's part of the magic of Christmas my only disappointment my parents didn't lie for one more year!!
My son is 2 and a half and my husband and I are so excited that this year he's getting excited for Christmas, yes it's a retailers market, but it's magical, go on lie away and share in the magic, when he's old enough, heck make a fuss this year!!
2006-11-01 09:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he his only 2 months, he will not have any undertanding about xmas, yet alone Santa Claus. When he does get older where he his able to undersatnd, there is nothing wrong with telling him about Santa Claus. Let him be a child for as long as it takes, there is too s### in this world for us adults to deal with, yet alone a child. I remembered when my brother told me that he was not real, I was 5 years and he was 11. I was devasted. Why ruin it?
2006-11-03 09:41:25 · answer #5 · answered by fire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
31? LOL!!! You can give a child the fantansy but also tell them the reality which is what I did. It's like with the Easter bunny. There's the commercialism and the actual reason for the celebration. You gotta while to work the kinks out though aye.
2006-10-31 21:22:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a million. not each and every figure "teaches" their baby(ten) about Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, and so on. i comprehend of many father and mom who in basic terms tell their toddlers (those toddlers who see Santa Claus, Easter Bunny, and so on on the mall) the thoughts in the back of those mythical cultural creations. and go away it as that. 2. a figure is amazingly all of those issues. . . agency, strict, loving and information. each and each and every baby is different. each and each and every difficulty is different. that is continually good to have some sparkling decrease "floor guidelines", and sparkling decrease outcomes. and understand that the floor guidelines will replace because the youngster differences with age. issues that were suitable at age 5, are not quite suitable even as they are 15, vice versa. also that is continually a good component, as a figure, is to understand what's the underlining reason/rationalization for a baby's habit. . . are they hungry, drained, bored, searching for interest, indignant. are there relations subject matters occurring (divorce, lack of existence, blending households, and so on)? are there subject matters on the college (bullying, peer pressure, and so on).
2016-12-05 10:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by embrey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is still small and will most likely not remember what you said, its when they get older.I would go with tradition and say there is a santa clause. It's cute to think that they will be looking forward to it,i always did as a kid. Dont think of it as lying. He will find out through friends when he is older,and i'n sure he will not be upset. He will still get his presents even though there is no santa.
2006-10-31 21:57:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
,my daughter is 15 months old and I've had this discussion with my partner. If she should ask us, we will be telling her about St Nick, but that Father Christmas in the form that he is associated now, does not exist. we still want to take her to see santas grotto and stuff, but we think its hypocritical to lie to our kids, and then tell them off for doing at the same time!? Plus, why lie to a kid anyway? They do NOT need to be lied to to have a good Christmas!
The magic of Christmas, should be in the love between parents and children, and having a good time, not believing in something that is not real.
2006-10-31 21:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by Resolution 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dont worry about it. Everyone does it so all kids are in the same boat, we tell our three that santa only buys one present for them and picks the rest up from us to wrap and bring back on xmas day.My eldest is 10 years old now and I think she is starting to realise but shes fine with it....no harm done
2006-10-31 21:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by Clare B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋