I am 20yrs married women having a child. I am in relationship with a men who is also married.?

Question

I dont know whether this is good or bad hence i was very depressed. He is not happy with his wife and I am having differences with my hus. Many times I have tried to dicontinue our relationship but he is not ready for that . We are not having any sexual relation we just talk in phone only. But I dont want to continue this relation. But one way i feel very relaxed when I am talking with him.The main thing for this relationship is my hus rude nature, he doesn't care me . Pls answer. Serious answers pls.

Answer 1

It seems that neither of these men are right for you. Your husband does not appreciate you and the other man is married and very much out of bounds.

In any other circumstance, I would say leave your husband, but you owe it to your unborn child to give your relationship a go. Tell the other man that, although you have enjoyed his conversations and company all this time, you feel you have to give your marriage 100% and that you will have to sever all contact with him. If you have to, get your phone number changed.

Then, sit your husband down and explain to him how you feel. Tell him that he must consider your feelings. Lots of men find it difficult to change their ways, but you must try. Give it a year, then you'll know for sure whether you can stay married.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

You said that you are having a "relationship" with this married man because of your husband's rudeness and indifference towards you? Then i think you really have some marital issues that you need to resolve.

I think you should talk to your husband about your marriage problem.Let him know how you feel about the marriage.Tell him that you feel hurt by his rudeness and indifference and that it is hurting the marriage. It is difficult for a third party to give you advice on issues like this.You will have to try to find a solution between the 2 of you.

On the other hand,the "relationship" that you mentioned seemed rather platonic since there is no sexual relation involved. Personally,i think that both you and the married man just need someone to pour out your marriage grievances to each other.There should be no harm in your friendship(unless you decide to develop it further) Maybe sometimes when you encounter a rough patch on your life, you need someone to console you and for you to pour out your grievances to. As long as you don't intend to develop an affair with him or sense any sexual tension between the 2 of you, i think you can still remain friends.

Answer 3

Well purely from a social point of view, what you are doing may look wrong. There is a possibility of getting caught and facing the wrath of the husband. The husband at that point in time will have the support of the society and the family.
Even if you haven't had sexual relationship, the family, husband and society may not buy the argument and may brand you as bad.
So knowing these consequences, please decide if you need to continue. Once you have made up your mind, you can act firmly one way or another.
Today the social mores are permissive enough to turn a blind eye. So I would not brand you or judge you. You are at the prime of your youth and need attention and understanding. If you are getting it from elsewhere, why not?
But discretion may save you some embarrassment later. Good luck and have [e-mail]

Answer 4

IF you read yourself,you do not seem happy in the current relationship, at the same time, your child must be forcing you to be in the relationship. Talking of your other guy, you found refuge in him.Time will heal,dont jump into anything, things will get much better.If you like the new guy, go ahead and marry him, but you mut be able to take your child. There is no place for rude people.

Answer 5

Well, if you can't work things out with your husband you should decide about your marriage. If you believe you are not the cause for your husband's behavior, then you are free. Though your husband as you said is not caring and rude, you shouldn't get involved in another relationship. But have to get a divorce and then you can have with your man that you wanted.

Good Luck!!

Answer 6

depressing even more bcoz...you and the man u have sweared in to love, and that is your husband, are in bad terms...try compromising...did u ever gave urself a chance to fix the gap between u and him? or we're u too silent to take comfort through a "phonepal" and not talking it over to ur husband?
and breaking two marriages would be so awful...sometimes, adults behave that all they care about is their own selves and not knowing what comes next...would have to make you wonder if do adults really grow! try fixing your marriage first before jumping to a conclusion that would be like jumping to a cliff! Keep on praying! Goodluck!

Answer 7

look explain to him you want to stop complete contact w/ this guy for 6 months...and at the end of that 6 months if you havnt worked it out w/ your husband leave..maybe your husband is being an *** is because he senses something is up. the same goes for him you will neve rknow if you get together now if it was because you hated your husband or you wanted this other guy more

Answer 8

You talk like someone else married you with that *** you call husband. Don't try to weasel your way out. Try to get along with him now that you have a child.

Answer 9

Are you trying to break up 2 marriages?? It is fine to be FRIENDS only, if you want out of your marriage, then get out of it, but don't mess around on your husband.

Answer 10

On the phone - just talk - feel good - continue Please.
Nothing wrong to feel any guilt.