it bugs me because i thought i would be too but things have'nt worked out. Am patient now and i have things i want to do before i get married but i hate being the singleton when we're out what should i do?
2006-10-31 20:35:42 · 15 answers · asked by tixsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be patient. I know that sounds sad but it is true. Are you against casual dating? If not, there is no reason you can't go out with someone occassionally or a few times and then move on to someone new. There is nothing to stop you from going out with the gang with one guy one week and another a few weeks later.
I get the sense that you are a relationship kind of gal and that is why you feel this way. (In other words, you only have relationships not dates as described above.) Even if this is true, have you considered whether your friends have contributed to your feeling this way by not being available to you as a friend, alone. Many, many women who are involved with someone don't ever go anywhere without them or have a time for anyone but them after it gets hot and heavy.
I have been hitched for 10 years and so have many of my friends. I have only 2: my sister and a good friend 500 miles away who can/do travel alone with me or just go shopping, out for dinner, etc. alone. Some of these people are highly educated women's rights' types and they still don't spend time with women friends. If this is happening to you. . .expanding your circle of friends might be in order but above all things, do not jump into just any relationship because the women around you can't function without their man around. That would be a disaster.
So as I started this rambling response, be patient. Your time will come and when it does, be a good friend and keep up with everyone and go out alone.
2006-10-31 20:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by Holly O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't stress. Have you ever though about how much your girlfriends might envy YOUR life? Think about how many relationships you know of where the couple stay together out of habit, fear of being alone, lifestyle or for the sake of the kids etc.... Being in a relationship is not all it's cracked up to be and not the be all and end all. Enjoy your single status because if and when you do meet someone pretty special and you go for it, do you really want to be regretting not enjoying your single life as much as possible when you had it? Do not let other people make you feel inadequate either, anyone who does that is not worth your while and what kind of friend would? Enjoy yourself and be happy!
2006-11-01 04:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by rondavous 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best thing i did when this started to happen to me was find some single friends. I know that sounds harsh, but it doesn't mean your old friends are not your friends any more or that you stop spending time with them, it just means you spend 'single' time (pubs, clubs, etc) with people you have things in common with. It gave me a whole new lease of life as a single, and i really started to enjoy it again, especially as most of them are the same age or older than me.
2006-11-01 04:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What?? U mean u are looking 4 a b/f? If so, u can use this forum and ask the readers if there is anybody who would like to be your friend? And then get to 'no each other and if u end up liking each other u can may be meet, exchange phone numbers, and c if u could try a relationship. Are u picky about boys?
Gd luck
2006-11-01 04:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by badboy22bs 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to see it in positive terms.
You have been given the chance to do things that you can't easily do when you are in a couple: travel, taking work opportunities abroad or in other places, studying; or just being as selfish as you like.
The world of coupledom can be very sterile and formulised; you aren't missing much.
2006-11-01 11:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that is really sad, but
I am a singleton too. Don't get me wrong, I am not being opportunist. Just being frank. If u drop me a mail, we can have a chat and see where it goes. Who still want to be in singleton.
2006-11-01 05:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was married at 19-and divorced him by 24-
Got married at 26 and divorcing him now at 28.
I am now single and starting to enjoy myself-
Getting married is nothing special,I've done more being single than when I was married.Watch sex and the city re-runs and don't lower your standards think about being positively single and Mr right will find you.
2006-11-01 04:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a friend who is 17 and engaged and i think that is a bit silly and wont last. in my opinion the later you get married the more certain you are that it will work. dont worry your time will come and untill it does have some fun!
2006-11-01 04:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by louise h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You choose your partner very carefully, hon, don't jump in because of peer group pressure! It's odds on! nearly every one of your Friends envy you and your Independence in one way or another. Also! any guy's around 30 are either too immature, or have failed marriages, therefore baggage and hang-ups! Or gay! Be carefull hon and think before you leap! Have a good day!
2006-11-01 04:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough one! You can't rush loe or marriage and definitely can't force it! Hopefully your friends try not to make you feel left out because you are single, you should not have to justify your single status to anyone. I am in the opposite position! I'm married, one of friends has a steady boyfriend and the others are single! Just remember what you all have in common and just be yourself and all will fall into place!
2006-11-01 04:48:55 · answer #10 · answered by ehc11 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋