my bf left me after i born our baby girl a year ago...he didn't even bother to see us or to help me, gud thing my parents was always beside me! and lately he was calling me telling me to forgive him and that he want us back! after a year?! i get rid of him and decided not to see him and i don't even want him to see our daughter... you think i made a right decisiion?! im afraid that he might left us again...
2006-10-31 20:10:42 · 17 answers · asked by faith 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you've made a right decision!!! show him that you can make it, even without him!!! let him feel the pain...your daughter is your ace...
2006-11-01 22:30:32 · answer #1 · answered by she 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah for the sake of your child let him see her. If he hints around about getting back together let him know in no uncertain terms that if he screws with your head or is messing with your life again then he's out for good. Also this be a good time to hit him up for the child support that you are fully entitled to. He is legally responsible for that whether he is with you or not. In a case like forgiving him hope for the best but expect the worst. You can try to give him a second chance but remember the past. Whatever the case may be it's still going to be your decision. The bottom line though is he still is financially libel for his share of caring for his daughter.
2006-11-01 04:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you made the right decision. He might be sorry but think about how it made you feel. Are you ready for that again? Some men always think that grass is green on the other side. He moved to the other side........let him mow his own grass. Keep moving forward. As far as your daughter, unfortunately, he does have a right to see her.........but he needs to support her also. If no support, then forget it. If she wants to see him when she is older, that will be her choice. Hang in there. You can make it. It is wonderful that your parents are "hanging" in there with/for you.
2006-11-01 04:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For now, you made the right decision as he was an a.s.s.h.o.l.e. for leaving you when you needed him the most. However, your daughter needs to know who her father is even if she's still young. For now, don't say anything and if he really wants to see his daughter, he would come on his own accord(don't call him). When he comes, you set the records straight because he shouldn't just be popping in and out of the girl's life as he chooses.
Also, he should begin to pay child support if he really is interested in her welfare.
2006-11-01 04:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you made a right desision with not going back to him cause he might leave you again and what's the point of getting back togather if that's going to happen? But the bit about not letting him see his daughter I don't really agree. Some children grow up with getting the wrong message about their parents, thinking that they were never wanted by one of them because they never saw them or heard from them. I think that if you let her meet her father, she might feel loved even though you two won't be living togather.
2006-11-01 04:20:03 · answer #5 · answered by dark angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did he sound last time he called? Maybe it has taken a year to clear his head and has come to his senses and is ready to take responsibility. If you feel this is the case, getting back with him will add stability to your child's life.
If you have any doubts, introducing this guy back into your life, may actually cause more problems.
Weigh these up and base your decision on how you think your boyfriend has or hasn't changed.
Good Luck
2006-11-01 04:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by ballistic222000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is best that the child should know him. Of course he is a jerk for leaving you when you needed him the most, but everyone makes mistakes. If he is ready to step up and be a good father then I think you should let him. For the sake of the child. Besides he should be helping you financially with the child. I would not think about dating him.
2006-11-01 04:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by Mystie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think the only thing he's good for is paying child support.You made the right decision except "dad" should be able to see his daughter.
2006-11-01 04:15:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st of all, I hope when your daughter gets older she won't miss any spelling classes. But its never cool to keep a child from a parent who has good intentions.
2006-11-01 04:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by Hi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is so confusing. he might've really changed and u could live together as a family finally (which is best for ur daughter). but on the other hand it could be that he'll leave again and this is double trouble for u and ur daughter if she starts recognizing him
2006-11-01 04:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by the freakin' analyst 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just take it slowly right now. You don't have to make up your mind immediately. But you should let him see his daughter.
2006-11-01 04:14:39 · answer #11 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋