There is a guy I thought I would travel over an ocean for. He said he'd keep in touch but has yet to call or write after over a month. He's running from everything he's known. Do I bother going to see him for his birthday like I said I would, or walk away believing that if I was that important to him, he would've called me?
2006-10-31 19:59:31 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
um, cant you make contact with him first, to see what is going on his end? Perhaps he has moved on.
Us men are funny creatures, sometimes we want a bit of space without really knowing what we are doing.
If he means a lot to you, then try and find out whats going on, but certainly dont travel half way accross the world with out knowing what you are walking into-that could end up being a very expensive mistake, and a pretty miserable one.
Hope this all works out ok for you.
2006-10-31 20:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer your question because I don't have enough information about your relationship with this man.
However, why don't you call or write to him and find out what the problem is - I mean why he isn't calling and writing you. If he doesn't reply to you, then I might think about not going to see him. If he does reply to you, and you understand what is going on with him, then maybe you can continue with your plan to visit him.
I empathize with how your feeling when you write "walk away believing that if I was that important to him, he would've called me?" I have felt exactly the same way, but sometimes, we are not seeing the situation realistically. Sometimes, it has nothing to do with how important we are to the person, but rather something personal that is going on with the other person that prevents him from interacting with us in a way that feels good and right for our relationship.
2006-10-31 20:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by happy inside 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels that he cannot contact you for some reason as much as he might like to. He is running from something as you say. Perhaps he thinks that in contacting you, whoever/whatever will find out where he is and contact him.
Sometimes we mean to keep in contact with people and the days turn into weeks and the weeks into months and the longer it is left, the harder it is to make the call.
Go and see him wherever he is just to satisfy yourself that you have done all you can. If he is off with you, at least you are safe in the knowledge you kept your promise and can continue with a clear conscience. If he's the same as he always was with you, you'll have a great time and be glad you went.
If you don't go you will forever think, 'If only I went', especially if you find out later that he was in real trouble and you could have helped him.
2006-10-31 20:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY GOD!!! he is on the other side of the world do you expect him to call you everyday? the fact that he hasn't called doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't want you (although it doesn't say otherwise either) it means he is fricken busy(heck he may be in the hospital or in jail) that's the problem with alot of women they think we only exist for them, also if one person is running away, the person runs away not to be found, so he may still care about you and call you and all that but he is running away meaning as in I don't want the people that you know that know me find out where I am but I still care for you that's why I call every once in a while. Well that's my guy point of view.
2006-10-31 20:09:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing! How well do you know this guy? I moved to a different country for a guy only to find out that i didn't really know this guy at all. He turned out to be married and i had to make major decisions should i stay or go I stayed and I've seen this Guy do the same to other girls. I now have a good life a good job no man but I'm happy - sh. Think carefully
2006-10-31 20:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by emma b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an answer form him before you do anything. If he has run away from everything he would not I fear be a very trustworthy or loyal person.
It is better to face dissapointment in the comfort of your own surroundings and friends than somewhere that you are not as familiar with or have no or few friends.
I hope I am wrong and he responds to you
2006-10-31 20:06:25 · answer #6 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give this guy a call. Depending on his reaction act accordingly, if you get a bad response don't go. If he able to shed light on the subject and is amazingly positive and constructive - and is REALLY able to answer ALL and ANY doubts and questions you had or have, then pay him a visit - Your life and your time are important.
Remember, he hasn't called you, so this isn't a good signal and shows a high degree of inconsideration.
2006-10-31 20:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by ballistic222000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do U feel hollow inside when U're away from him? If yes, then he's worth crossing the ocean over.
But do prepare Urself for any outcome from Ur surprise visit. Who knows, the reason that he hasn't contacted U was that he's all occupied with some other babes over there.
2006-10-31 20:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by daisy770 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you try to get in touch and tell him what you've just said in your question - that he said he'd keep in touch but that you've not heard anything for a month. At least find out why he hasn't contacted you, there may be a good reason.
Otherwise if you just walk away you'll probably forever be asking yourself what happened.
good luck.
2006-10-31 20:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There may b a lot of reasons of not calling you regularly within short time peroid. If u think he's good you should go to him otherwise not. See it's only u who can decide as u r the only person being in contact with that guy not anyone of us. Think.....& do what ur heart suggest you..all the best!!!
2006-10-31 20:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by Aum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋