Is it wrong for me to go out to coffee just because I enjoy his company, or is that sending vibes that I would be interested in a relationship? And how do I break the news that I don't want a relationship if/when it comes up?
2006-10-31 19:02:06 · 12 answers · asked by dandelion86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest & up front with him.. It will save you alot of problems in the future..Believe me I know..Wait till he says something about it or if he starts making moves that make you uncomfortable or says things that hint that he's into you,let him know right then..He can only respect you in the long run.. He may become a good friend or not,and you might find if you take the time,you might like him. Stay sweet..
2006-10-31 19:11:25 · answer #1 · answered by blueboyswoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and I agree with you completely. I value love far more than I do lust. Do things together as friends, then work on a romantic relationship. Do you enjoy the same foods, hobbies, concerts, music and theater? It takes time and effort to find out if you are compatible or not. Personally, I like the wonderment and anticipation of a possible romantic relationship.
2016-05-23 00:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He asked you out for coffee, not a cruise on the Love Boat. Maybe he just enjoys your company too, and is looking for a friend. When the subject comes up, IF it does...just say that you're not looking for a relationship at this time...plain and simple, to the point. Don't lead him on tho...if he shows interest beyond friendship...make it clear that you're not interested
2006-10-31 19:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go have the coffee with him. Mind yourself rather than him, because then you will know if you are for him or not only then.
What ever you decide at that moment, let him know you mind about relationships and not intimacy, less he does not respect you and wants to ruin it.
Hey! Be the courageous girl be where she wants and yet has control of the situation, the men.
Boaster that ability to say no and mean it even if he thinks you are not serious, that will only be his fault, not yours.
NB: Yet donot take chances for the sake, except it is absolutely necessary.
you got a lttle insight for sharing, but watchout for dubious answers.
2006-10-31 19:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by Rutherford 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you talk to him ask him what his intentions are. Be clear from the beginning. Tell him before you even have coffee that it is merely as friends. This way there will be no mixed signals
2006-10-31 19:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either tell him upfront that you are not interested in a relationship, or at least be upfront and honest about it as soon as you get any sign that he is interested in you in that way. No reason that you shouldn't go and can't be friends with him though.
2006-10-31 19:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by palu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might as well break his heart and find someone else to have coffee' cause he is either going to hate you for good or will never get over it. Your such a heart breaker arn't you.
2006-10-31 19:21:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest in what you say to him but you should say it ASAP that you only want friendship. And pay for your own coffee! That will usually indicate to someone you like being alone!
2006-10-31 19:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't act like a 3rd world chic now - don't people have Leisure meetings in Business deals or trips..., there's nothing to worry about as long as u are standing on firm ground. (if it is wobbly - nobody can help u, then)
2006-10-31 19:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by Sid Has 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably not a good idea to go . He will get the wrong idea and think you are interested
2006-10-31 19:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by lefty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋