I don't like it because I think both partners should bring 100% but my bf seems to think differently. Who do u think has the better idea
2006-10-31 18:49:44 · 14 answers · asked by dcutegirl06 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want a relationship where each person brings 100 percent
2006-10-31 18:55:04 · update #1
It sounds to me that you maybe confused about what 50/50 means. In this relationship both partners bring their best all the time. it's the end results of the relationship is the "100%". There will be times when one partner will not be able to do their normal best for one reason of the other. This is when the other partner will have to pick up the rest of the load. This should not be a concern in a healthy relationship as the scales will balance on their own. I have been married for 21 years in just such a relationship, my parents for 52. If you or your boyfriend are always concerned with "balancing the books" in your relationship, then you both are going about this the wrong way. This is not to say that either one you should allow the other to just slide by. BOTH must always do their best, just remember the the others best may not be the "best" you are expecting.
2006-10-31 19:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
50/50 only means that both of you are giving the same effort, love, etc to the relationship. That doesn't mean that both of you can't give it your all. 50/50 would be an ideal situation, but it never happens. There's always going to be one partner that takes a little bit more than the other, and that even changes from situation to situation. What seems to be lacking in your relationship is the ability to communicate and see things from the other person's perspective.
2006-10-31 18:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by ksm_52180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing as both bring 100% whatever the total is that is 100% preschool math says so..there is no such thing as 50/50 in any realationship for the simple fact that when you go to the movies at times u all watch ur chick flick and at times his action movie...thats when one of the two gives in a little, this causing a shift in percentages....at times relationships are 70/30 25/75 and so on....I mean come on do u really like to sit and watch his football game, no, but you do it to please him instead of pushing him away...one gives the other one takes and vice versa. Negotiation is the name of the game...i do this if you do that, I will let you do this if I can do that...play your cards right and you will be fine. Let me know if this helped ya.
2006-10-31 18:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by jmol72001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By 50/50 he means that you both give an equal ammount. thats what it means. I'm all about the 50/50. I dont feel like as a guy I have to "buy" a girl. If she wants to be with me than she will, and the same for me to her. Treat her like a lady but dont make it 100% the guy working for the girls attention as she stands above him and tells him what to do. thats not a good realtionship.
2006-10-31 19:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by Daniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a 100% relationship, the total u need is 100, 50-50 or diff....
For a balanced relationship, u should have diff. figure like 60-40..
50-50 will NOT be balanced...
Look at your (naked) male - if u do not believe this...
2006-10-31 19:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by Sid Has 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
50-50 means he's only willing to go to the 50 yard line. Sounds like a wuss to me. You can't score when you stop at the 50 yard line! I can tell he's not the sharpest tool in the shed.
2006-10-31 18:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by Easy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is a committed relationship they should be giving a 100 % EACH= but that is not always the case- so = does he mean splitting the bills and all that?? I think the man should support the woman- but that is another story- D
2006-10-31 18:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your right. its 100% each person or its not worth being in that relationship. 50% of him is committed to you while the other 50% is elsewhere. it just doesnt make sense, his head is in the toilet.
2006-10-31 18:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't keep track of such things
Humans aren't capable of 100% of anything.
In a relationship sometimes it is 80% /20 %
It changes
2006-10-31 19:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because there's no assurance in this world...that's why he believes in that while you, you give all when it comes to love!!! if he tells you that your relationship is 50-50it means his not so sure about you!!! you have a better idea, 'cause you give it all when it comes to love... but be careful, he might not be the one for you!!!
2006-10-31 18:56:08 · answer #10 · answered by faith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋