Ok this might sound stupid but do you think i should give my ex that i will always have feelihg a birthday card and write down how i still feel and suprise her with it, even though she thinks im not into her or is that to sweet for her. (SHE BROKE UP WITH ME FYI)
2006-10-31 18:31:57 · 15 answers · asked by Adrian N. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes that is completely sweet and im sure she would appreciate you being honest about your feelings
2006-10-31 18:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by NoDiggityNoDoubt 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. You need to move on. Sorry buddy. The best thing to do is to take the time to grieve the loss of the relationship. I think she must have left you recently or else you wouldn't be feeling this way. There ARE other women out there. I know you don't think that. I know this because my ex dumped me. But buddy, There IS a lif beyond being dumped. Take some time to grieve the loss of the relationship. It obviously wasnt' working for her. figure it out and why it wasn't working. It's a tough loss and something you have to chalk up as experience but you NEED to move past so you can learn from it and take the experience and the lessons and move into a more SUCCESSFUL relationship. If you don't, you will never evolve into a successful marriage partner. And that IS the point of dating. After you have grieved the loss, go out and start meeting people and be friends first and when you feel that special feeling towards one of your female friends, THEN you are ready to date her. if she feels the same way, ASK HER OUT! you might actually have a canidate. Have fun in your new relationship! Be sure not to skip any of these steps. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-11-01 02:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by leeanndemon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends totally on YOUR situation: How long have you been broken up, do you still have any contact etc etc. But the only advice I can give you is how I personally would feel and personally I would love to hear from my ex on my birthday (and I broke up with him) even if it was just a hi how are you kind of card. I'm not sure how long you two were together - but for me its kinda like, well we spent all that time together and we shared so much and he will always have a special place in my heart cos he was my past so of course I'd love to hear from him!!! but you need to think it through and ESPECIALLY think..what are YOU hoping to get out of it. cos you need to do it not expecting anything cos if you have expectations of getting her back or something you might get disappointed. all the best!
2006-11-01 02:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No question is stupid when it comes to matters of the heart. I think giving her a card for her birthday depends on how your relationship ended. If it ended on a sour note then I wouldn't suggest the card. If you and her on still on speaking terms, then a phone call might be more appropriate. As for telling her how you feel, again, depends on how your relationship ended. Hope this helps.
2006-11-01 02:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Awww so sweet :) I think it's alright to give her a birthday card but I'd feel creeped out if my ex put in too much "i love you" mush. But stuff like "friends forever" would be safe
2006-11-01 04:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my ex, that I broke up with, gave me a card saying they had feelings for me, it would creep me out and make me feel uncomfertable. Just do a regular old happy birth day card and try to develop a friendship again. If being friends works out after a while then maybe see how it goes, if you give her a sappy card now she may just get wierded out and avoid you, I would.
2006-11-01 02:36:12 · answer #6 · answered by Megan G 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i mean, do what you want, but she broke up with you, right, and you are still broken up, so chances are, its over. there comes a point where u have to move on - yes, you can tell her how you feel, but in the long run, what will that do for you? sometimes it is best to close the door and focus your energy on things that can bring you more in the future opposed to things that once were. have pride and move on, whats done is done.
2006-11-01 02:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by t_sunrise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really sweet of you to think of doing something so nice.
but she broke up with you, and she doesn't deserve something that special from you.
you obviously deserve someone better.
Best Wishes
2006-11-01 02:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda have to agree with the shark dude. Move on and let her suffer.
2006-11-01 02:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could- that would be sticking your neck out- but did she have a good reason for breaking up w you?? or she just so moody - it does not matter:??? D
2006-11-01 02:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋