Theres this girl I see everyday at school. DAMN she is so sexy it drives me mad. I dont know how to control this feeling of WANT, but I also dont want to end up making a HUGE mistake such as going to talk to her because I want to have sex with her (shes that kind of girl). I wouldnt want a relationship with her anyways because it'd be too tempting. It makes me SICK to my stomach. How can I control these feelings? This desire for SIN is tearing me apart.
2006-10-31 18:11:50 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I answered a question you asked earlier, but I just advise you to read the book of Romans and the Gospels.
Romans talks extensively about struggling with sin and how to overcome it through Christ. Paul even says how much he struggled with sin, but he mentiones the freedom that is available!
Also, there is a great book about sexual sins that men struggle with, and how to guard your eyes from lustful wanderings. It is called "Every Man's Battle". Look it up on half.com and order it! It could really help, i loved it.
Good luck and pray pray pray, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.
Also read the book of proverbs, the early few chapters are Solomons advice on women (and he knew all about women, he was a wealthy king who struggled with it too)....and his best advice is to FLEE, RUN from them if you feel tempted, and run to God!!!
So find a good Christian crowd, Christian guys to keep you accountable, and pray for God to transform you into a man that can honor and respect a woman as a sister in Christ before you look at her as a piece of meat.
Trust me on this....
Peace:)
PS>> to devilman: If you die, and there is no heaven, then you won't even have a chance to realize it. You won't even be able to prove that you are right to anyone nor wish anything about Church, you will just be done. finished. over. But what if you are wrong? You should tremble at the thought that you could be placed before a holy and just God who will hold you accountable. Don't gamble with your soul like that. That is way to risky.
check out http://www.markcahill.org to be sure of where you will go for eternity:)
2006-10-31 18:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't fight the devil, you laugh at it!!
Lust is of the lower Charkras (nodes) of our Electromagnetic frequencies. Our consciousness, soul, spirit, essence is "energy". Our sexual lust, which is a healthy and normal material body attraction to our sexual preference, is not a sin but a normal event that begins as we reach puberty. It is a sign of reaching "manhood".
The male testosterone is a powerful homone or drug that is secreted and makes us desire the object of our lust. It is part of our survival mechanism. Masturbation and ejaculation is only a temporary reprieve. The lust returns. For males, lust is not only for one but for many females. The female, because of the nesting instinct and the birthing and caring for the baby is more "monogamous". The male is not. The male can temper his lust through respect and love and sympathy for the person that the testosterone will make one "objectify" in our lust.
Anyway, being of the lower chakra and therefore in the red end of the electromagnetic spectrum, one can polarize that energy with the mind by increasing the frequency from the red (long wave length) to the blue (short wave length) end of the spectrum.
That is done by either increasing the amount of oxygen in the system through excercise of any sort of physical activity. That will also change the mind as the joy of accomplishment as in sports will use up the testosterone.
Another method is by prayer or meditation (not the "join a group" and "obey the Guru" type of meditation but the do-it -yourself or the "empowerment" type) and "visually", imaging, or through suggestion, raising the consciousness to the other chakras or to higher thoughts, either intellectual or spiritual. We "feel" the areas where our consciousness is.
The more we think about it, either to wallow in the lust or to 'resist" the lust, the stronger it will get.
Good luck...You are not a sinner but are a normal person....
Cyril Borg, the Cyborg.
2006-11-01 03:17:25 · answer #2 · answered by cyril_borg 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi! poor sweet man! It's so natuaral at your age. My son is going to be a priest and has had many relationships with gorgeous women until he had a great conversion. Now he lives in Rome and says the women are to die for but he has different ways of fighting the urge. He says he distracts himself with a game, work, prayer. Makes believe God's mom is watching him especially when he goes to bed---he prays for her to guard him. He prays to Michael the archangel for help, He stays away from porn and things that are tempting and every day is another fight. I am married happily and still must always beat down lustful thoughts of guys I work with etc. The devil works through lust and you must be a very good christian man to have so much of his attention! If I were you I'd get to know her. She might have really bad breath or BO and you might find you're more in lust with the dream than the girl.----Or maybe she is the one God wants you to marry and have beautiful children with. Lustful thoughts are not the problem. Dwelling on them is. I will pray for you! Be easy on your self cuz Jesus had to resist temptation too. He understands and loves you deeply. He feels your anguish.
Say his name over and over! See ya!
2006-11-01 03:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by belladmma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH! So, YOU'RE the pure one with lustful thoughts who wants to stay pure, and SHE's "that kind of girl." What kind of girl do you mean? You don't know her at all!
Are you unconsciously passing the "blame" for your "madness" upon her? You have a skewed sense of reality if you think that by talking to her she will just automatically want to have sex with you.
If you made up your mind to go talk to her, how would you handle being romantically rejected? What kind of girl would she be then? A bi_ch instead of a sl_t?
I suggest you get some help and advice from professionals about socially interacting with girls and how to avoid projecting your neuroses upon other people.
2006-11-01 02:59:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ecks 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
2 Cor 10:5
5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,
Phil 4:8
8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy--meditate on these things.
This is a test brother. Pray you pass this test so the Lord will exalt you.
Watch what you allow yourself to think about. Pray and when "she" enters your thoughts say "I circumcise all evil and lustful thoughts" in the Name of Jesus. Say it with authority and say it as many times as it is needed.
God Bless you! Jesus Loves you! Remember your an overcomer with Jesus! Hallelujah!
2006-11-01 02:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i completely understand your predicament.i have gone through that,so it is not unique to you.and just like you, i am aware that to pursue that which is enticing would lead to sinning against God,so i fight it.
you can begin by humbling yourself before GoD.Begin by praying and fasting that God helps you overcome these evil thoughts. Fasting ANd praying will help you to subject your flesh/physical body to the desire and will of God for your life. he gives you Godly desires .plus Jesus did say that some of this demons can only come out by prayer and fasting.
reading the Word of God will also allow for the renewal of your mind.discplined reading of the word of God allows for the transformation of your mind from the cultural pattern acquired over the years, so that you are no longer conformed to a culture and way of life that is increasingly hedonistic.
IF YOU ARE NOT A BORN-AGAIN CHRISTIAN, YOU FIRST NEED TO ACCEPT THE LORDSHIP OF JESUS CHRIST,so that you can get authority over all kingdoms, principalities of mhe air, and atake all thoughts captive.
barikiwa!
2006-11-01 02:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by mkenya halisi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you talk to her you'll realize you have nothing in common and your interest will subside. Lust is just one aspect of the attraction and relationship with another person known as love. The fact that you want her says something about you. If you think she's a skank, and I think that's what you're saying, then the only reason you'd want to be with a skank is because you think you're just as low and pathetic as her. If you love and respect yourself, you'll be attracted to loving and respectable girls. So stop worrying about her and worry about your own misguided path.
2006-11-01 02:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah, you are twisting in the agony of want and desire.
Why do you think it's lust?
God wants us to be happy and fulfilled as well, however, caution is good since starting into sexual relationships too early can reallly be a burden later on in life.
A good thing to know: (Dr Dobson says so)
Girls play at sex to get love
Boys play at love to get sex.
Now, did all that mojo go away? It took all the mystery out of it for me when I read that.
2006-11-01 02:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Id suggest u stay away from her and try 2 b as close to God as you can. I guess this relates with all sexual matters, not just sexual relationships. I mean watching porn or masturbation could be considered to be just as bad as going ahead with the situation u r in now. Try as much as you can to block yourself from thinking these thoughts or lusting for women and try to be strong. Try to find a decent Christian girl to hang out with and be friends with. Try to not look at women as sexual objects.
2006-11-01 05:18:58 · answer #9 · answered by akjdsgflu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok first off it is natural human nature, God gave us a bodya nd it is very sinful, nothing good can come from the flesh. However, nowhere does it say you perish for getting a ***** for a girl, swearing, killing, stealing, raping, and other things as long as you beleive in Christ, he isn't a get out of jail free card, you must beleive in him and want his path and he who is with Christ, Christ shall be with him AMEN.
2006-11-01 02:42:19 · answer #10 · answered by gook_mother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋