Five days ago,a guy in my class offered me to become his girlfriend.At the beginning I decided to say yes to his proposal. But the last day I changed my mine and I told him that I like him, but like a friend.It would've been easier saying yes,but i thought that it was better for him to know the truth.Now he is really hurt. I wanna call him up and talk to him, but i am at a loss for words, i just don't know what to say.I really want to stay friends, but...
Another problem is that lots of girls like him, and some guys are crushing on me. Him "proposing" is the major news of the class and they are watching us as if we are Romeo and Julliet. They follow us around and ask us what is going on all the time. Lots of people will be happy that we aren't together but...On the phone i told him that this girl likes him and he said "and jessica, hilary, tatiana,e.t.c." So i joked and said you're a girl magnet. he said:not for the girls i like (a.k.a. for me).How can i make him feel better?
2006-10-31 17:40:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you guys really are friends then it's worth trying to maintain that friendship. It's really embarassing to be turned down and he's probably feeling pretty stupid for asking you. It will probably embarass him further if you constantly try to talk to him about it. If you do choose to say something, the best thing to do would be to let him know that you're willing to talk more about it if he wants to but there's no pressure. Let him know that nothing has to change, it isn't a big deal and that you're just happy with the way things are. Maybe make a joke about how ridiculous it is that people are making such a big deal about it. Leave it at that. Whatever you do, don't tell him that you feel really bad for him or anything like that. It will just make him feel stupid and pathetic and he may get defensive and start being a jerk to you. Just continue to be his friend but watch yourself because it's possible you may be flirting with him without even realizing it. He may look at that as you leading him on.
As for the other people in your class. It's difficult, but you really have to act like it's not a big deal and that you're above that kind of thing. They're just trying to make something out of nothing because they have nothing better to do. Just apologize for not being able to add any more drama to their boring lives. If they want to sit around obsessing about your life rather than living their own then that's their own sad little drama. Other than that, there's really not much else you can do. Everyone has gone through this. A week can seem like a year when you're in school. Everyone, including him, will get over it soon enough and it will be like it never happened- I promise you. Don't worry too much about it.
2006-10-31 18:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by Pico 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him why you said no. Honesty is always best. Make sure you are being true to yourself! If you like him as a friend than you already have the most important element in a relationship.
If you think he just wants to get in your panties let him know! If thats not the case he will prove it too you!
2006-10-31 17:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by Deegoor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are only responsible for your own actions and feelings. that is nice of you too care about how to make him feel better, but the truth be said, he can only do this for himself. make yourself feel better by carrying on with your own business. no offense to either one of you.
2006-10-31 17:42:21 · answer #3 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋