i am ugly, im not saying it because i hating mysrlf or watever but it's true. i have chubby and very short legs, body and facial hair, have tons of pimples, dark areas on my neck, knees and underarms and im overweight.im comfortable with who i am.i have great personality and if beauty is only skin deep .why boys dont like me?they say they look for personality and i have it.im 17 years old and no guy has ever asked me out. actually i didnt know i was ugly until my friend took the courage to tell me that it was time i had to change my appearance .i asked her why and she told me all those things. it hurts but now i know why guys dont like me. so would u date a girl like me,guys??im pretty confident that i have great personalitites cuz i've been told that alot
2006-10-31 17:34:57 · 32 answers · asked by ImJuStAgIrL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. and right now thats a ferrari.. for a girl thats a skinny hourglass shape figure.. thick rack.. small waist.. and sexy back.. no personality needed
Your not ugly.. you just haven't found the right guy yet..!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He will come in time!
2006-10-31 17:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That "friend" that told you were ulgy IS NOT A FRIEND.
Do not now nor ever change your self for someone else. The guys that dont like you because of what they think you look like are just plain jack A$$es and you are better off with out them.
I say keep doing what you are doing. If you want to lose weight for heath reasons then go for it. Your face will clear up soon. 17 year olds sometimes have bad skin.
The darkness on you may be something like an allergy or something in what you eat or you may just need to drink more water. (My mom alway said that) Maybe tanning might make you feel better.
Try and not worry alot. At 17 I thought I looked like a troll and probablity did. Im 37 now and I think I look very good. No it did not take me till I was 37 but year after year I was learning that I was nice looking and not that ulgy as I thought.
2006-10-31 17:45:00 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I think its SO great and refreshing to hear how much you love and appreciate the very good qualities that you do have. You sound very intelligent and full of life. You have a beautiful inside that takes most people a lifetime to get! You are in a great starting place...
...as for the ugly thing. The truth is, people aren't necessarily looking for a supermodel, but certain things like pimples and facial hair are very unattractive. The good news is, you can FIX a lot of those things. I would recommend you invest some time and $$$ into making yourself the very best possible OUTSIDE version of you. If cash is a problem, try getting a small job, or ask the adults/family members in your life to help you out a bit. You've got the inside part down, now work on the outside.
My advice:
1.) Find some kind of physical activity you like doing and go for it to try and slim down a bit. A class of some sort (yoga, dance, kickboxing) always helps with motivation. Lay off the junkfood, that causes weight gain and acne.
2.) Take care of the acne- I heard Proactiv works well for a lot of people, look it up online
3.) Wax or bleach the facial hair...now.
4.) Invest in a great haircut.
5.) Have some of these friends of yours help you out...you seem open to their feedback so go ahead and delve some more.
You sound like a GREAT person that some guy will be very lucky to have one day. You will be so psyched that you're looking your best the day you meet him!
Best of luck!
2006-10-31 17:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by SummerPixie 2 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Hey don't be so hard on yourself. Listen to your friend and try to do a few things to enhance your natural appearance. There are cosmetics for facial hair and pimples and creams for dark areas. Yes it's true that beauty is only skin deep but If i saw you from across the room usually its appearance that initially attracts me to you. Then I can talk to you and find out what a great personality you have. I hope I don't sound mean in saying this, I only want to help. Good Luck.
2006-10-31 17:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by Agnon L 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
HI there,,,
If u have a good personality, then you should have a great confident too,, don't be scared of being confident there is nothing to lose,,, there is no point of rushing about love,,, what you need in this world esp when u are young,, get more knowledge have great friends and ENJOY ur youth....
Thus, I believe you will learn about yourself and start to love yourself,, everything is start from love yourself first,, if you can do that,, I believe one day everything is possible,,,
Remember this live is not about girl or boyfriend,,, this live about finding happiness and find the real you ....
Like it or not about my comment thats the fact,, and I m on it... I prefer to understand myself and learn to love myself before I can give the right love to someone else....
ooh btw.. I want to tell you something,,,, after 10 years. WhenI see those barbies again, they are not as beautiful as they used to be and that's what you call ugly as hell,.. the unpopular girl has bloomed into goddess ( I believe one day you will too)...
2006-10-31 17:40:38 · answer #5 · answered by Phunagex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personality makes you look what you are. Dont get me started on being ugly though. If you are nice and have a good personality then who cares what you look like? I didnt start dating til I was 18. I had my first real kiss at 16 and it was by a guy that I wasnt even interested in, it just happened. Then, I just found a certain something in me that came out when I was 18. It'll happen. I'm just starting to get my stuff together and I'm 26! :)
2006-10-31 17:42:14 · answer #6 · answered by ◙Blue-Eyed♥Red-Headed♥Bella◙ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can always improve yourself but don't go overboard. You can never change who you are and can never alter yourself just to keep other's happy. Not everyone finds their true love at such a young age and sometimes you may not realise that everyone opinion of beauty is different. This being said you need to be happy within yourself to be able to let yourself be loved. Make sure you don't give up or think no-one is out there for you. There are alot of guys who feel that way about themselves and they need to be loved too so look for the quiet guy who keeps away from the crowd he may just be the love of your life.
2006-10-31 17:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by Tallie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is this guy, who just isn't all there if you know what I mean. Not real handsome and talks like he is slow. I know that what I just wrote isn't true about him, but that is how he comes across to others. This guy also has been out with girls who you would think they were out of his reach. So it's is a funny world out there. Yes some say there is a standard by which we all judge each other, but there is someone out there maybe even more than you think, who would love to meet you. Keep your mind and eyes and heart open.
2006-10-31 17:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by freesample1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its kind of like the first impressions thing you hear about in job interveiws where the first impression is the most important and most guys will see someone and not give them a second look if they dont like what they see but there are still those rare guys out there that look deeper and see more than looks but trust me ugly guys like me have the same problem with girls but they can be even worse because they will mess with us and tease us to make us think they like us and when we ask them out they laugh and tell all their friends about the ugly guy that asked them out people in general can be mean to anyone that doesnt fit their idea of what someone should look like honestly speaking knowing what i went through being overweight and still go through i would give any girl with a good personality a chance over someone that looks good on your arm because in the long run personality is going to stay and makes you who you are looks can fade overtime and leave you with nothing
2006-10-31 18:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by ohiocowboy1277 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Teenage boys are most of the times mean. I use to be overweight and i remembered just how mean they were. dont worry about it. as for facial and body hair, if it bothers you, maybe you can have them taken off (laser) and see a dermatologist to take care of your skin problems. Your worries can be taken care of but will it take care of your emotional scars? Dont worry about what other people think of you. As long as you have friends and family that loves you, thats what matters most. In time your personality will shine and the right boy will come along and will love the real you. In the meantime be patient and try to love yourself...:-)
2006-10-31 17:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you get out of high school, things change. people grow to be less shallow... ok, so SOME people do. also, you are all acne-covered because you are a teenager!!!
well, you can choose to take better care of yourself. go to a dermatologist to take care of the acne & dark spots. then, take care of the hair issues on a regular basis by waxing & so forth. these things are what every girl your age has. some just do better at hiding it than others. getting a good hair cut and some new clothes that are fashionable & fit your body can also help significantly. these are things that help you to look maintained.
taking care of yourself is different than being ugly. i suggest doing some of these things & see how you like them. it might just help your desire for dating to come true. these things are shallow, but they do show that you care about yourself. guys like to see that a girl cares for herself & her appearance.
2006-10-31 17:44:19 · answer #11 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋