Im 18 and he is 19 and we have been together for a year. he lost his virginity to me. within the first 6 months of our relationship, we would have sex a couple times a day. and now, we have sex about once or twice a week. i need to have it at least once or twice every day or two. he always says that he is too tired and doesnt feel like it and would rather me lay down with him. he knows that it gets me upset when he doesnt want to do it because i talk to him about it. he used to work about 12 hours a day, and i understood why he didnt want to do it, but now he only works about 7 hrs. i feel like he doesnt want me anymore. the only thing he does sexual anymore is touch my boobs. i dont know if i should wait for him to come around or what. i dont know what to do.
2006-10-31 17:30:46 · 25 answers · asked by cc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lucky guy . . . ;-)
You are wearing him out. He needs more than just sex in the relationship. Step up in other areas and the sex will come back naturally.
Stop nagging him to have sex, yeah it sounds silly but it is possible.
Why do some guys have all the luck? ;-)
2006-10-31 17:34:25 · answer #1 · answered by Payne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is, and this is the same for all relationships, we get into a funk. We feel comfortable with eachother and take eachother for granted. That being said, do you do things, sexually speaking, that please him? Men love fellatio. Without it, any relationship will go sour, just because of that. It's weird to us women, but it's true. Actually, I guess the opposite could be true too! If I wasn't pleased when I had sex, there wouldn't be much point in pursuing it, whether I am tired or not.
Maybe just start there, and ask him if there is something that he would like you to do different...that may open the door.
Also, over time, some of us women tend to nag a little! It's true! And once we start nagging, they don't hear what we are saying anymore....and that leads to the man not wanting sex anymore, they just get put off the whole thing. Good luck.
2006-10-31 17:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by cindiloo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 7 hours a day is still alot. depends how strenuous his job is too. is he running around getting stressed out alot? is he stressed with school? its mopst liekly not you. do you live together? sometimes it can take guys longer to "recharge" their batteries after a session and it seems liek maybe you guys are having sex too much. twice a day is alot! lol you sex addict. lol so he may just want to lay down and spend time with you and cuddle, isnt that good enough for you? why dont you just talk to him whats wrong? and what really is bothering him if it isnt from being stresssed, working, school, and being tired....
2006-10-31 17:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he is just too busy. Maybe he has alot on his mind. Maybe he is worried about getting you pregnant? It could be many things, the only way to know for sure is to ask him and believe what he tells you.
Instead of complaining take the initiative. Be wearing sexy lingirie when he comes home from work. Have a bubble bath ready for him. Buy some sex toys and tell him if he is too tired to use them on you and fufill you. Get creative!
Good luck!
2006-10-31 17:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is young and has a lotta scream potential left. Chances are he is seeing someone on the side and making her scream. Talk to him and let him know how important this is to you. Change the routine a bit you know (different positions, toys, dirty talk/fantasy).
If he doesnt change his ways, find a guy who will. There are plenty of us who would love someone with your sex drive.
2006-10-31 17:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by sabor69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not coming on to him and not mentioning it at all to him! Try it for like 2 wks or so and if he doesn't come to you asking for sex I suggest to move on and dump him! Let him ask you for sex and if he doesn't it means he's just not interested in you anymore or that he has some other girl! Good Luck!
2006-10-31 17:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by xSilverStarx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I am so having Deja Vu here. Set him down seriously and see what happens. I'm not trying to paint a bad picture for you or anything, but my ex-husband and I went through a lot of bullsh** and we should have talked it out to figure stuff out. Please find before its too late. I'd hate to hear a question about how to get out of a bad relationship later on for ya.
2006-10-31 17:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by ◙Blue-Eyed♥Red-Headed♥Bella◙ 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i think is u shud cOntrOl it,, havin' sex 3-5 times a day?! its bad... and maybe he's somewhat afraid of getting you pregnant,, and why dO you want to have sex, 24/7?? dont you get tired?
2006-10-31 17:45:10 · answer #8 · answered by Vhan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either he dont want u anymore or he got somelse, if u aint slim, or pretty then its nor suprsing, cuz take it from me asa guy they all want skinny, lightish pretty girls human nature i guess.
2006-10-31 17:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he is not fooling around with someone else? For your sake I hope he is not. If you rule that out, then try something new to excite him. Try roleplaying, or wearing something really sexy. Try to talk to him about his fantasies and try to live them out if it is within your comfort range. Good Luck!
2006-10-31 17:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋