My boyfriend of almost a year broke up with me quite unexpectedly a little over a month ago. I was devastated, but pulled through into a very tight "action plan" that included no contact, working out a ton, going out with friends, writing in a journal, reading lots of books, writing and sending a letter for closure etc, etc.
Suffice it to say I look and feel great, with the occassional heartache every few days or so. I feel like the best thing for me to do is to get back out into the dating world, but I'm worried it's too soon? Then again, does the heartache from total, random rejection ever go away? How long should a girl give herself after being so harshly let go?
2006-10-31 17:20:55 · 21 answers · asked by SummerPixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry for his loss, you sound like a great girl! I would definitely say get yourself out into the dating world and see what you can catch - even just the lighthearted flirting around will take your mind off him and get your blood racing again. And who knows, maybe you'll find someone you can really hit it off with =)
The heartache from rejection does go away, but it is a very long, slow and painful process, as I'm sure you know. But I promise you one day you'll look back on all this and be amazed how much you cared. There is no specific time for how long you need to wait after being let go like that; as long as you're ready for a new lover, I say go for it!!! Don't waste anymore time thinking of your ex and feeling hurt by him, go find some new action girl! =)
2006-10-31 17:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by La 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Trust me to forget another person is by getting a new one. I was in the same position as you until coincidently a guy approach me n guess what i am married to him now.
What you did to forget ur ex was a great idea. Not every one can do that. Bravo. Go out enjoy urself. LIfe is Short
Rem! Someone that you don't know even exists, loves you.
In this kind of world, lets just appreaciate ppl whom appreaciate us. Dont give timing for yourself.
2006-10-31 17:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by treesha_006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with a guy for over two years, we were actually engaged and the same thing happened, he just broke it off for no reason! I literally got over it in a weekend. I cried alot and then with the help of friends realized if he was the kind of guy who could do that to me then he didn't deserve any more of my time wasted on him!! Get back out there and find someone who does deserve your time and don't give him another minute of your life!!
(PS - I got married about two years later and have been happily married for three years now and have two wonderful boys... I wouldn't be where I am now if I hadn't decided to put myself out there again!)
2006-10-31 17:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by jenieatworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out there. The best thing for a broken heart is alot of fun. Dont get to close to someone but take your time and date a little. If your young just have fun and worry about serious relationships when you get a little older.
2006-10-31 17:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah sure i've got self belief u thoroughly, i've got been given otu of a 5 year and precise off teh bat i had this lady that became already involved so i've got been given fortunate taht the timing became there (no longer plenty anymore yet thats yet another tale)....look, what u would desire to do is in basic terms commence speaking im extreme i dont care if u r in basic terms standin in line at ur community cvs n perhaps the dude in front of u is gorgeous or sumthin locate something he's protecting or according to risk he's lookin at a mag in basic terms point out sumthin say hi in basic terms say sumthin! yea its no longer continually gonna come out precise n u could sound like an fool now and lower back yet thats in basic terms ur lack of self belief cuz u been out the loop for thus long, now its time 4 u to construct it lower back up one layer at a time, as 4 ur ex no person individual is the comparable so overlook abouyt that crap thoroughly and in basic terms make convo with random human beings n continually be helpful it attracts goofd issues to you perhaps no longer precise away n it may take a at an analogous time as yet at last you will get ur groove lower back (no pun meant haha!) :)
2016-10-03 03:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no the best thing to do is move on and find someone new. Once you find someone your into you'll totally forget about the ex. One downside to this though is if you try dating someone and it doesnt work out then you'll miss your ex even more. But that's natural and it's because you'll look back at the good times and feel you'll never find someone again..just natural fear...but should def date...
so uh...wanna go out to lunch? :D
2006-10-31 17:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by joeknockz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
actually, dating again can really help you to heal. a month is long enough for a person to pick up the pieces. if you wait too long, then you will have a harder time getting back into things. so, just go for it.
2006-10-31 17:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, a month is not long enough, you should give yourself more time, perhaps 4-6 months in all. In the meantime, keep doing what you have been doing, be comfortable being by yourself, and have fun being single.
2006-10-31 17:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you already said it "I feel like the best thing for me to do is to get back out into the dating world" you already have done a great job getting over the breakup now get back in the pool!
2006-10-31 17:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by keoni_21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beleive not all guys are the same, just chuck a side the past and think of fund and for your own future, but just choose the right one.
2006-10-31 17:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by THILLAI a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋