Halloween, after my daughter says this is the best day ever? I got the call at 10:34 p.m. tonight after bringing home my little girl from trick or treating and getting her to bed. this is sad news to the family my little girl goes to her dads every other weekend and see's his mom and dad, and this weekend is thier weekend to have her. and she talked to her last tuesday and said that they would see eachother this friday. How can I explain this to my daughter to where she would understand and I pray that this will not be a day of sorrow for my daughter.
2006-10-31 17:16:26 · 18 answers · asked by lionaness813 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i would break it to her gently. does she understand death? you want to incorporate your religious beliefs into this explanation along with the news. if you believe in heaven, then you can explain it that way. you just really have to tell her. it will be hard no matter what.
2006-10-31 17:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by christy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for your loss.
There is no best way to tell your daughter. She will feel the pain. However if I were you I would explain to her tomorrow what happens to a person when they pass away. That even though they pass on and can no longer be seen, their presense and the happiness that they brought can still be felt. And explain how the body may die, but the soul moves on to a better place. Give the example of how even when you, as a mother are not always by your daugther's side, she knows that you still love her. Although she may seem young, she will understand.
Explain to her a couple hours afters, as so not to shock her, that her grandma pass away. And she should understand that her grandmother loved very much and wanted her to know that.
Offer your support without babying her or making it seem like death is the end of the world. This will allow her to understand that life is a process and that love never dies, even if a body is no longer physically there to show it.
2006-10-31 17:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by tofu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell her tonight. You many even want to wait a few days. Try and take her some place outside of your home. Some place you guys may never go to again. You dont what her to remember every time she goes to this place that that was the place she was told grandma died.
You also might try doing something like plant a tree or some flowers to always see and think of grandma.
Dont worry. Little kids take things a lot better then we think they will.
2006-10-31 17:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree, tell her tomorrow. My grandma died when I was 10 the day before the fourth of July. I think about her every year on that day, and I'm so glad that it didn't happen on the fourth, or I would always have that sadness and wouldn't be able to celebrate. At 8 she still has quite a few more Halloweens to celebrate before her childhood is over.
2006-10-31 17:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We just went through something similar.
I chose to tell my children that their grandmother would want them to celebrate her life, not to mourn her death. She would want to be remembered with smiles and laughter. Take the best of memories and share them together. We did this sitting in a circle.
It really helped, yes we laughed and yes we cried however at the end we all gave a hug and said very nice things about Grandma ....because that is the way she would have wanted it.
Kind words and Kind thoughts for a very Kind Woman.
Best wishes
2006-10-31 18:03:29 · answer #5 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss.
Considering it's already 10:30 pm, let your daughter go to sleep happy, after having a good day.
Tomorrow, sit her down calmly and explain what happened. At 8 years old, she's old enough to know what death means. Comfort her and hug her, and be there for her.
2006-10-31 17:19:57 · answer #6 · answered by catwomanmeeeeow 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My condolences for your loss.
Regardless of what you hope it not to be, it will be a day of sorrow for your daughter - she has just lost her grandmother. Sorrow is normal and natural and should not be denied - it is fundamental to one's healing and grieving process.
She is 8 years old and has the capacity to understand the 'facts of life' so just tell her as gently as possible and let her talk about her grandmother all she wants and ask as many questions as she wants
2006-10-31 17:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry for your loss
well, try this on for size.....my daugher and i lived with my mother. a year ago, she died and i had to tell her that. then i had to tell her that we were moving from the only house she knew because my dad's girlfriend needed a place to live. i move in with my aunt and this sunday that just passed, she died and i had to tell her. my daughter is 7....
your daughter will be okay with the news.kids are stronger than we think
2006-10-31 17:54:05 · answer #8 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you taught her about God and Heaven ? If you have'nt then now would probably be a good time to bring up the subject. Just tell her that granny has gone to heaven to be with jesus and she will live there and will be waiting to see everybody again. I hope this helps. Good luck and god bless. My sympathies are with you and your daughter at this most difficult time.
2006-11-01 01:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to tell her tonight. Let her sleep on her happy memories of the day, and wait until after school tomorrow to give her the news.
2006-10-31 17:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by nondescript 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋