How can I tell my boyfriend I want a promise ring?

Question

We have been together for about 4 years.I am 18 hes 23 we are in love and we tell eachother we want to marry eachother and have kids in the future. I know hes my soul mate and I'm deeply in love with him. I want a promise ring, I saw this girl and she and her boyfriend had gave eachother them. How can I tell my boyfriend I want one for christmas??? I wish he would get me one without me having to tell him but he seems all manly and not into that stuff, also I'm his first gf so I don't think he really knows about them.

Any advice or suggestions.?
I really want one for christmas, I want other guys to know I'm taken and in love.

are both the guy and girl supposed to have promise rings or just the girl? because the girl I knew both of them had them. I don't know if my boyfriend would want one. I do though.

Answer 1

well i'm also my bf's first girlfriend and he already gave me a promise ring during our first week, and he wears his all the time.

i think, if the guy really wants to give you a promise ring, he will. if not, either he's not too up to the idea, or he's not aware of it.

let's hope it's the latter ok? try to make him more aware of the promise ring. try to drop hints like, tell him about ur girl friend receiving a promise ring and express how you think it is sweet. if all else fails, i guess your only choice is to tell him directly what you want.

Answer 2

Hi! I'm in a great relationship with my boyfriend/fiance. Hehe. and well for us the whole idea of a ring - whatever ring that is - like a promise ring, an engagement ring or whatever just sort of came up naturally. Like, maybe your boyfriend is thinking the same thing as you, you know? Probably he's wondering the same thing you're wondering too - whether you want to really sort of take the next step up and have this promise ring-bond. Sure to some couples it's just a ring, like to some couples marriage is not a once in a lifetime thing. But I'm sure if you guys are in a serious relationship a promise ring is a true heartfelt promise and commitment. And, maybe he's second guessing your feelings? Maybe...he's not sure whether you want one because you never really opened up the subject you know? =) As for telling him the story about your friend, hehe, guys are not great at seeing the underline meaning! At least, majority of them aren't I reckon.. With guys sometimes you just gotta come out open, hehe, I personally don't think guys take hints well. But anyways, I'm sort of rambling now. My point is - you should probably wait a little while, and things will fall into place naturally! And if you Really really have waited for a really long time, and he hasn't said anything about it, maybe subtly bring it up like, in a joking manner - don't you think my finger would look pretty with a promise ring? Hehe. something like that. Or go shopping with him on the pretext of showing him rings to get his brain working =P Do the puppy-dog eyes! I'm sure it'll melt his heart. Hehe. works with my boyfriend! And talking about it wouldn't make you greedy. Because, it's just telling him how you feel. And if you've been together for 2 years and are going strong, then he'll definitely understand. Hope this helped. Good luck to the both of you.

Answer 3

well with Christmas just around the corner better act quick hun. Is there a reason after 4 years you couldnt just have a discussion with him and show the sincerity you are showing here. Explain to him why you truly want one...you want others you know your taken and very much in love! Then let him pick it out by himself so he can take great pride in your excitement Christmas morning!

Answer 4

You are 18 and you are his first girlfriend. Don't expect marriage out of this relationship. Both of you are too young to know what you want in life, especially him, if you're his first girlfriend ever. Hate to sound mean, but high school sweethearts rarely ever work out in the long run. If a ring is really what you want, then tell him. If he doesn't want to get it for you, then that's a sign.

Answer 5

You should start off by explaining to him what a promise ring is. He might not know. You could say "My friend has a promise ring, which is ___fill in the blank______". See if he offers to give you one. Smile at him and give him non-verbal cues which would indicate that you want one.

If he doesn't catch on, then bring up the subject about a week later, and gently ask if he would be willing to give you one.

Answer 6

does HE know what a promise ring is;what it represents? Does he know any males who have ever given a promise ring? Is it part of his family traditions. Once he understands what it means to make a promise like that...ask him if he's ready for that commitment, even if it seems like a small thing.
Someone told me, you have to make him think it was HIS idea, not yours, so don't come right out and ask for it...but still make sure he know that YOU are ready to make that kind of Social Statement.

Answer 7

Damn i wish my ex girlfriend was like you!! hah. anyway, just explain to him what a promise ring is and that one day you and him should have them...I wouldn't say anything about wanting one for christmas, but just mention the ring to him and see what he says! I was gonna get my girlfriend one (which i never knew about until she told me) but we broke up 2 days before I gave it to her..We were together for 2 years..So your boyfriend will have to get you one soon!! I hope it all works out for you too!

Answer 8

drop a few hints...like if he asks you what you want for christmas that would be a good time to tell him...I don't mean to sound cynical about it but if you've been together for 4 years and you've discussed all this other stuff like marriage and kids, don't you think that if he was really serious about things that he'd have gotten you one by now...maybe he's just comfortable with how things are, and doesn't want to find something else...don't mean to sound cynical but it is a possibility

Answer 9

If it's been going on this long, just tell him that ya'll should get promise rings.

Answer 10

Just like that.. Tell him straight up that that is what you woul like for christmas and the reasons for it.