do you think relationships today should be traditional- boy calls girl, boy comes to girls house, opens doors?

Question

i still believe guys like to chase their girl around, even if they have had 2 yrs relationship like me... (only if its not in an exagerated situation) i mean yeah i call him and say hi sometimes or in case i really have to tell him something.. but mostly its him looking for me...for ex. we always talk right before we go to sleep... he always ends up calling me... i prefer it this way... what are your opinions? is it better the traditional way? not always being the clingy girl calling him and asking about every move he makes?

Answer 1

After two years relationship with a guy, you should know what works and what doesn't. Does he like that you call him? Has he hinted that you're crazy and he doesn't want you to call him anymore? Please think about this for a moment, because one time this girl used to call me all the time and I hated it and told her so but she thought I was joking. But I wasn't, by any means.
However, in the beginning, I think it's always good for the guy to play a traditional role, but that's just my style. Unless the girl's a crazy lesbian feminist that thinks that type of behavior is demeaning. But whatever. I wouldn't be dating those girls anyway. What it really comes down to is how you feel about the guy doing this for you. After two years, it is more mutual and you need to consider if you're driving him crazy or if he likes talking to you every night before he goes to sleep.

Answer 2

I think it should be whatever you are most comfortable with.

I remember my mom always telling me, "stop chasing, let them call you", etc. But why should we wait, what are we waiting for, a missed opportunity?????

Do whatever you feel like doing, when you feel it. If you want to pick up the phone and call him? Just do it!

I do however still believe in the door opening, etc. just make sure you say thank you when he does it. That will let him know that you appreciate even the little things that he does.

Answer 3

I would like to bet that if he stopped calling you, you would immediately think something was wrong, because you have become comfortable in knowing that he always takes the initiative.

I think that it is all rubbish. The women's movement danced around and demonstrated and carried on because they wanted to be equal to men. But the grass is always greener on the other side... until you are there. So, that is why women are spoken of as the "weaker sex", they aren't required to go to war, they expect men to open doors for them and be chivalrous, and then they want all the same "benefits" as men.

I think that people today should be mature enough not to rely on outdated antics from past centuries. Men shouldn't be expected to do everything for women, and women shouldn't be expected to sit around waiting for their knight in shining armour.

Just do what feels right, and dispense with all the archetypal sterotypes :-)

Answer 4

It depends on what you mean by traditional. I believe that a guy should be gallant toward his GF (opens door, helps her out, stands up when she arrive/leaves, pay the bills, etc.), but sometimes the girl should take the initiative. Specially on phone calling, if she needs or wants to talk to me, I appreciate it if she does call me without having to wait for me to call (which could be forever, well, not forever, but I'm not too much of a phone guy).

Answer 5

Those manners as a courtesy gesture, it's OK but it's not a duty.
It's refreshing when a girl decides to call her boyfriend, without emotional games.
Some times when the girls stay stuck in one kind of treatment, they don't grow up and the boyfriend become a second father, that's a exhausting function.