I am 17 years old and i live with my mom, her and i have been through some tough things and she has lost her mind. she has this "friend" and he stays here all the time and he might be the father of another woman's baby and my mother has told him he can move in and they will take care of the baby together, i have become so uncomfortable here that staying is no longer an option. i feel unsafe and i know she will pick him over me and tell me to leave so i want to know as long as she says i can leave, i can right? and she cant have the police come after me, should i get her to sign something? i need to leave this house before something aweful happens and my life is in danger which probably isnt far from now. i have a boyfriend and he said i can stay with him but if i leave without my mom knowing she can press charges against him for kidnapping.
anyone have any idea what i should do?
i really appreciate it.
2006-10-31 16:43:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Get your mom to have you emancipated by the courts, then you can legally move out with no repercussions. Find out what it would take in your state to do this. If this is not an option, find out from your local probate office what you can do legally, you might have to go through childrens protective services to legally be removed from the home because of imminate danger. Hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-31 18:05:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend of mine who's in a similar situation. And NO, even if you get permission, your mother is still responsible for you until you are the age of 21, and so if you leave, even if she gave you permission, she can still call the cops on you!!
You may not like your home life, but most teenagers don't. That doesn't mean your life is in "danger." lol I don't think their raising a child will cause trouble for you. Maybe you just feel like you're being left out. I wouldn't exactly call that "unsafe" either. But that doesn't mean you should run off with your boyfriend. Your her daughter no matter what happens. That isn't going to change. You need to just sit down and talk to her about your feelings. That's what you should do. That's what a mature, responsible person does anyway.
You sound like a young girl who isn't getting her own way, who's very selfish, so she's running off to get what ever she wants. That's how it comes across to me anyway.
If your life was in as much danger as you say, you would call CPS and the police on her. Instead of running off with your boyfriend. Just an observation....
2006-10-31 16:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would have to be emancipated by a court of law. Why is your life in danger though? I would also like to point out that I also agree with Jenna. I know people in the same situation and it turns out that the teenager is screaming for attention and they feel that they can only get it from their boyfriend. One of them is in danger with the boyfriend and not the other way around. I don't know the total situation at hand either so it is hard to say anything.
2006-10-31 16:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you are in danger you need to leave, but not to move in with your boyfriend. Find a safe place where you can live without, being put into a position you are not ready for, because your home is not safe.
2006-10-31 16:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1-800-8KID-123 call them and they'll be able to give you and direct you in the help you need. I wish you the best but, don't move in with your boyfriend okay? I did that and it's not a good situation for the age of 18 but you also do what you want to do no one can tell you not to do it and suspect you to not too.
2006-10-31 18:44:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think she's going to sign emancipation papers if she's threatening to charge your boyfriend with kidnapping. So until you turn 18, you're screwed. Some **** you just have to deal with.
2006-10-31 16:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by PaulN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'M SO SORRY THAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH THIS, YOU ARE ONLY 17 YEARS OLD, AND YOU SHOULDN'T BE GOING THROUGH THIS. OK HAVE YOUR MOTHER SIGN A PAPER SAYING THAT YOU CAN LEAVE, AND HAVE IT NOTARIZED, IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR BETTER OFF LEAVING THE HOME. THIS REALLY MAKES ME FEEL SAD, BECAUSE OF YOUR SITUATION, I AM SO SORRY THAT YOUR MOTHER IS LIKE THIS. I HOPE THE BEST FOR YOU, AND MAY GOD BLESS YOU WITH MANY BLESSING.
2006-10-31 16:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by tinkerbell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, that sounds awful. Isn't there anyone else you can talk to - a teacher, counsellor, aunt/uncle, neighbour, cousin??? Your mom's situation sounds really screwed up - isn't there any alternative for you other than your boyfriend's place?
2006-10-31 19:04:22 · answer #8 · answered by westcoastpup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So go ask her,but at 17 it won't be long before you could leave on your own anyway.
2006-10-31 16:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the county courthouse and have her sign emancipation papers
2006-10-31 16:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋