I am in a dilemma.
my gal suspects that i distrust her by posing another guy to test her if she might be interested in him.
she also wonder too, i believe, that i flirt with other gals.
i do have other female friends, but i took them as pure platonic friendship and my conversation with them is plain as bore. but they does like my company cos my conversation with them is always clean. perhaps that is why they find refreshing from other guys who seek them for sexual advances.
I like to talk with the gals cos i found that they have relationship problems and i hope that i can help them on this. i enjoy doing this as i know ppl appreciate my listening ear and i do hope they could marry faithful husband and not those who flirt or sweet talk.
how will u feel or react if u are me? gals or guys input much appreciated.
i am looking forward for a marriage with my gal and to be faithful to her and keep to marriage vow is something a cherished dream for me since i was 15, i am now 33. tks.
2006-10-31 16:28:25 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sigh. girls tend to believe that guys are flirts by nature, i guess it can't be helped. try assuring her? or do more things with her that will touch her? show her more concern? i don''t know. she has to trust you for it to work. tell her that much as she wants her male circle of friends, you would also want your female circle of friends. i'm show she should know how faithful you are. and i have the dream that you have too, i hope it will be able to come true for you. good luck (:
2006-10-31 16:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by missjolintan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. First, it is important for both of you to constantly communicate effectively with each other. While there could be some times of failures, there would be times when your expectations of each other would be communicated across. Over time, the sheer efforts of trying to communicate would be recognised as an overall attempt to maintain a good relationship.
You can only constantly reassure her, with lots of patience. Time would be what you can use to prove to her that you remain faithful.
Meanwhile, if you have a girlfriend who feels insecure easily and you really love her truly, then you need to think about whether you should continue to talk too much to girls about relationship problems. If you ask me, I would say you should stop it. Girls want to talk about their problems but they don't necessarily want to, or seek solutions to solve them. They need listening ears. If they are true friends, they would also be able to respect your need to be sensitive towards your gal - so they would also understand.
You can still have platonic friendships with the opposite sex, but you got to be sensitive still since you do care about how your gal thinks and feels about your relationships with them. Alternatively, if it is possible, bring along your gal when you are with your platonic girlfriends. She can then see for herself clearly what goes on between you and other girls.
Remember: Girls are sensitive, especially if she loves you, so she would know if you are indeed flirting, or be very reassured if she herself confirms that all these relationships are platonic in nature.
2006-10-31 17:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop all this or both of u will hurt each other sooner or later.
just be honest to her.
2006-11-02 18:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by sugar_guy84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have done what you say in the first para of you question then I think that she should give you the boot and GROBR.
2006-10-31 16:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop with all the games and be honest with each other.
2006-10-31 16:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋