Heres the story.... my ex girlfriend broke up with me a year ago. after a few months i met a great girl and we went out for 3 months. then the ex girlfriend started to contact me and wanted me back. i broke up with the new one to see if the old one changed. we dated for 4 months and she screwed me over and cheated on me big time. a few months went by and the other great girl i had wanted to get back together. i have been dating her again and things are better than ever.
the other day i went on the shitty ex's myspace account and she had new pictures of her and her boyfriend (the one she cheated on me with) on there. now she is emailing me and text messaging me to see how i have been and stuff. do i reply back and tell her i have been great and i am dating the good girl again or do i ***** her out and tell her to leave me alone and that she cheated on me?
any help would be greatly appreciated
2006-10-31 16:27:08 · 7 answers · asked by pele3844 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
pele: The best way to deal with this is to not let her see that you are offended. Demonstrate your new relationship to her by showing her you are having the ball of your life ! Nothing gets a person ticked than them thinking they are missing out on something. BUT; you sound to be bothered (still) about her relationship with her new guy ! ??? Pele; be glad that you found out what she was really like. Just think of how you would of felt when you found out about her cheating years later ? !!! It sounds like your ex is having doubts about her new guy and is fishing for information to see if she is missing out on anything !!! Don't go back to her, because the same thing which caused her to cheat on you before will always be the excuse she would use the next time she cheats. You can't trust a cheater - no trust - no love !!! You have a new girl ... remember how it felt when you got jilted by your ex. Soooo, don't do the same thing with your new one. Some advice: Stay away from your ex ... far away. She (ex) may not want you but doesn't want any other girls to have you, either !!!
2006-10-31 16:43:39 · answer #1 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not respond at all. There is no need to tell her she cheated on you - she knows that already. And telling her that you are happily pursuing another relationship might only make her more determined to come between you and your girlfriend once again. From your description, I got the feeling that that was the main motivation behind her first return to you - to wreck a good relationship you had going.
2006-10-31 16:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by Liz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
after all this drama that you have been through, the truth is out and you have learnt for yourself who is the real one here.
as for the ex, it depends. since you clear cut knows that she will just remain the EX for cheating on you big time, treat her at a distance. but if supposing you find this whole thing way too confusing, and you might give in to this ex of yours again, i suggest ignoring her for sometime. this great girl is great enough to want you back.
why are you putting her through unnecessary heartache?
2006-10-31 16:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Id tell her that you are doing great with the new girl your with. Trust me that will hurt more then just saying screw you or not replying at all.
2006-10-31 16:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by Laurel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't talk to her. It just seems like she is bad news. If i were you, leave it as is. Ignore the emails, and texts. Don't respond and don't get upset at her (what's the purpose really?). Just ignore her and I think that in itself will make her squirm and wonder what if... Good luck
2006-10-31 16:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by bunny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Delete your ex's messages unread and DO NOT ever have anything to do with her ever again. Geez, are you a masochist or something? She's just playing mindgames with you.
It takes 2 to tango so quit dancing to her tune and get on with your life!
2006-10-31 16:31:03 · answer #6 · answered by The Divorce Guru 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Totally avoid her. Do not have any contact with her at all. Don't get into the games.
2006-10-31 16:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋