So the sexual tension is right there and very aggressive. But I believe he wants something more from me like a relationship stuff, but I don't see him as a BF material. This guy is very attractive, very hot and pretty nice, but he has no steady job or even a goal in life. I just don't wanna mess with that--at least not now. I know sex will complicate thing. All I want is a hook-up, but I feel that if he doesn't feel the same way, it will be very hard and awkward when we work together. What do you think?
2006-10-31 16:21:51 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've said the guy doesn't have a steady job and also said that I work with him. Meaning, this guy only works at the bar like 10 hours/ week and that's all. I don't even know how he can afford stuff, really.
2006-10-31 16:37:27 · update #1
I've said the guy doesn't have a steady job and also said that I work with him. Meaning, this guy only works at the bar like 10 hours/ week and that's all. I don't even know how he can afford stuff, really.
Another thing, he sure lets me know he really likes me and that we don't need to have sex and that he can wait and on and on and on.
2006-10-31 16:38:09 · update #2
DO NOT SLEEP WITH THE LOSER! Go buy a personal massager if you must (and you DO know what I mean) but why complicate your life? If all you want is a hook-up, there are guys available on every street corner. No one will respect you afterwards but, hey, at least if they're strangers then you don't have to see them at the office or have them go tell everyone at work that you're a wh*re.
ADDITION: Oh, geez, the two of you work in a bar! That explains why you would even consider doing this. Look, don't go picking up customers either! If you're feeling frisky and must have a romp in the hay, there's plenty of guys out there not connected with your work because anyone with half a brain keeps work and personal life (sex) separate.
2006-10-31 16:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by The Divorce Guru 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you work with him if he doesnt have a steady job? "This guy is very attractive, very hot and pretty nice, but he has no steady job or even a goal in life. " Sex w/ a co worker is always a very bad idea, if things got ugly well you might be the talk of the work place. Don't sh*t where you eat.
2006-10-31 16:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an old saying that goes "Don't crap where you eat." Basically, that one night stand very well could be great, but could create a rediculous amount of conflict and drama in the workplace for you. If he is looking for more and you aren't, unless you plan on quitting your job, there's no way to separate yourself from this person should he get it stuck in his mind that "you're the one". One way or the other, you're the only person that can make the call, but if he's looking for more, this likely won't end well.
2006-10-31 19:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by Magnor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're already pretty keen on noticing that he might want something more than a one night stand... and that is something you DON'T want.... Why would you allow yourself to get into that sort of situation? Not only that, but why would you deceive him like that?
Dating a co-worker or messing around with a co-worker can be messy business especially if you have to see them every day.
You'll have to decide on your own... I think you already know the answer though.
2006-10-31 16:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by cutebastardette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you're reading him right? Maybe he just wants a hook-up, too. At any rate, good sex is hard to find. If it works, you could even date him for a while with the understanding that you're not exclusive.
2006-10-31 16:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by nondescript 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt give him anything at all. even if you have just a one night stand, you still work with him. its not like its a bar and youre on vacation. if he quits, go ahead and sleep with him. youll still see him after you have the one night stand and it might make things awkward at work. same with dating, if one of you quits, then go for it. but if you date him, then break up, you still have to see him at work, the aggravation really isnt worth the sex.
2006-10-31 17:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by crikeyme_mate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as neither of you reports to the other in the chain of command, it may be okay. But I would do a bit of exploring first -- find out what each of you want from a relationship, and is willing and able to contribute to it.
2006-10-31 16:27:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it unless all he wants is a hook up too. Feelings will get hurt otherwise, and you have to see this person everyday at work. Not a nice environment to work in at all.
2006-10-31 16:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by kay S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sleeping round ever is just dumb. If in the future you do decide you want a lifelong, meaningful relationship with Mr. Right, you will find yourself dissapointed that you have left so little for him. save yourself for your husband; you're worth more than you know to him!!
2006-10-31 19:58:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the complications you will cause if you hook up. So why bother with a co-worker? Surely, there are available men elsewhere.
2006-10-31 16:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋