We've been talking online for 3 months and I won't be able to meet him til January when he gets back from Iraq. He'll visit here for one month then he will go back. I know I am falling in love with him but I am afraid if we have sex within the month he is here he won't feel like he had to work hard to get with me, then he won't appreciate me. I am really attracted to him and I want him as a best friend and lover...whats ur recommendation guys?
2006-10-31 16:21:04 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well he is technically waiting now
2006-10-31 16:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by USMCstingray 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
From my point of view,I think 3 months of just talking on the computer is not knowing the person at all. He could say anything you would like to here.Till you meet him in person and get to know him better I think you should take it real slow.Far as having sex with him he might bring something back from Iraq that you may not want. So from my point of view as a man that would love to have a girl that I can trust and be with for a long time would be you should say no.
2006-11-01 00:38:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but i kinda think like a guy on many occassions. If you sleep with this man when he visits you, there isn't anything wrong with that. People get stuck up n the sex thing. Sex is bound to happen sooner or later, especially since you're attracted to him. Let him know how you feel and ask him, be straight up and ask him, "Do you feel like we're in the right stage to be intimate with each other?" If he answers just YES, then you need to think twice, if he says it's up to you and that he really don't care, he's a winner. You don't know what the future holds hon', you just gotta go with your gut feelings on this on. At least you and him connected on a mental level first, that's a good sign.
2006-11-01 00:29:53 · answer #3 · answered by Juicy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can put a time frame on it. Just wait and see if in person you are as connected to this guy as you are online. If he cares about you he'll wait till your ready.
As long as you don't throw him down the moment he walks through the door, i don't think there is a wrong time.
If all goes well, it might be a nice departing present just before he leaves for iraq! Good luck!
2006-11-01 00:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by bevo82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you just need to tell the guy that you really like & attracted to him very much. But you need more time to get to know him better. If he really likes you, I think he wouldn't mind waiting until you're ready for sex. Unless he is only interested to have sex with you just for the thrill & fun from this relationship. Let the guy know that you really like him & you want him to be your best friend & lover. I'm guy, I do appreciated if the girl I love/like tell me what's in her mind & what's she really wants from me to make a relationship works. Good luck!
2006-11-01 00:47:53 · answer #5 · answered by CM C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make no plan ahead of time. This is something that you might have a lot of time to enjoy....or regret, so choose carefully. No hard fast rule applies here. You have to take each day you have with him singularly and make that call at that time. I'm thinking that someone like you with your thoughtful consideration of this situation might be worth waiting for. Once he arrives, you can better gauge the situation. Best of luck kiddo.
2006-11-01 00:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Rich B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is it written that women always have to play this game???? If you want the guy after a week, then make sure he knows where to come back to next time. In fact, you should empty his weapon several times a day and he'll never look at anyone else.
2006-11-01 00:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best advice is to make sure he's not married already and to follow your heart thereafter. It's very nice of you to consider having sex with a soldier before he goes to war, however, be sure to use protection so that you are not left with his child in the event something happens to him while he is serving his country. Many of our mothers were nice to soldiers before marriage and regretted the consequences of an accidental child left behind. By the way, the bastard child/adult regretted it even more so!
2006-11-01 00:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to have sex to see if you do can start a relationship,start the relationship first,sex can wait.
2006-11-01 00:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dnt go for sex unless u get married legally..
listen the thing is security.. n also i dnt think tht love is just a physical relation ..
commit with him.. dnt go forward... ask him to get married,knw him well.. meet him. roam here n there.. feell free.. knw his past.. his family.. then go forward..
>> this is my suggestion rest is up to u.
2006-11-01 00:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by kul_lovin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take It Slow
Don't Rush
2006-11-01 00:23:19 · answer #11 · answered by Singapore_Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋