My boyfriend of 2 years went to have dinner with friends, (guys and girls) and even though he did invite me (he knew i couldnt go anyway) i felt kind of wierd, cause he never goes out with GIRL friends.... should i be alright with this if its only once in a while or listen to my jealous feelings and tell him honestly i dont like it....
(people say guys are like little kids, they test you to see how far u allow them to go)
2006-10-31 16:05:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Henry O.. u r so wrong about this... did u even read my question right?
2006-10-31 16:12:56 · update #1
Well a few things, first and foremost you gotta sit down and think with both your heart, but your head as well... True that you feel jealous, but do ask yourself why you are jealous?
- not trusting him? or
- a feeling of insecurity?
At the end of the day you know yourself and him best... if he is not likely to stray, then do tell him that you feel insecure, and work things through slowly, remember that a relationship is build one brick at a time, the strongest house is not built overnight... think 3 little pigs, the straw house get built the fastest but least strong...
If he's the kind to stray, that my questions to you, is why him? Do evaluate your relationship...
I guess at the end of the day, trust is something that has to be earned, but often we are told only one side of the story. No matter how much your bf tries to earn your trust, he's not gonna earn IF you're not willing to give no? Do sit down and think through yourself if its your side or his...
I believe you can do it... all the best!
2006-10-31 16:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by hotchocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jasmin, this is one thing that causes guys too leave or cheat. Girls being far too controlling. Im not meaning this too hurt you nor in any bad way. But think about what your saying a minute, he asked you too come. Plus he does need time and freedom too just be the person that he is. Allow him some freedom elsewise he will find it himself and it might not be as pleasant when that happens. If he has ever cheated then maybe you should worry, but if he has always told you the true, never cheated, then why do you need too cling so tight ? Think about the Rock song "Hold on loosly or you might lose control" think about that awhile, show him some trust. You just might get rewarded for it
2006-10-31 16:13:47 · answer #2 · answered by The Red Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes going out as a group I would not care. but the fact that he only asked you because he knew you wouldnt be able to go is pretty annoying. My boyfriend actually does not want to introduce me to his friends because he thinks im an embarresment and it wouldnt be a fun night. But he has no problems inviting his ex girlfriend out to meet his friends...i guess she is cool enough. NOt only that he goes ahead and pics up girls he admits he finds attractive for coffee. Now he is also lying about his wareabouts his car seat is always in a different position when i get in so someone taller then me is in it and also he is gone more then he is home and wants it that way,...now he is sleeping on the couch exclusively because he says that he doesnt want to be nice to me. He is s uppose to be in school until ten then the gym until eleven well hes not in school and hes probably not at the gym and i just sit here and take it because i am to afraid to be alone. I am mixed and screwed over because of this guy and he has not been mine for a long time his stupid wandering heart and his wandering eyes are going to drive me to my wits end i swear to god and do you think he takes anything i say seriously anymore? NO he doesnt and he doesnt even want to be with me anymore..i just want to punch him back into reality and make him love me and pay attention to me again, but he refuses, he has add or some thing rong cause he treats me like absolute crap and this is what your going to be in for if you start to take his crap okay so forget it..if hes only going to invite you somewhere because he knows you wont go then dont let him make a habit of it okay, do yourself a favor before you invest five years and a kid with someone who doesnt love you. it hurts so badly that i cant even describe it. Im the one whos left out and i fell in love with a loser. Words cant describe how crappy you will feel in a few years wishing you would have left sooner. Sorry anyways good luck.
2006-10-31 16:11:54 · answer #3 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, absolutely give him freedom. It can work if you both trust one another, and give each other some freedom to go out. I think guys and girls test each other sometimes. Do you have any reason to not trust the guys/girls he went out with? Or him? He did invite you, so maybe suggest next time they make it a night out when you can go also. Good luck to you both!
2006-10-31 16:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by Ginger Gene 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All guys like to go out . but he only went to dinner and he did invite you and that coment about a guy testing you its not true guys just do what they want more than girls i dont think you have any thing to worry about when you know these people he went out with and he did invite you
2006-10-31 16:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about it just yet. I mean, it sounds like a mixed crowd so it's not like he's just hanging out with a bunch of chicks (or one chick - which I think would be a bigger deal). Also, he let you know that he's going to be with these people, so it's not like he's trying to hide something. I hang out with my guy friends once in a while and I'd feel smothered if my boyfriend demanded that I drop all my guy friends.
2006-10-31 16:12:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, if it has been two years and your bf never goes out with girl friends then I could see you being upset.
I believe personally that guys should be able to have girl friends and girls should be able to have guy friends and that is how I have my relationships. But if your relationship has been going without that for 2 years already, then I can understand you being upset that he wants to go places with other girls.
2006-10-31 16:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes . when you both get together dosen mean you both have to ignore all your friends you should also hand out with you friends too some times. the best thing is you both can hang out both parties friends. i must say this realtionship works. your feelings only shows to your bf not infront of his friend that will make his friend think you r starting a 'fight' so when you want to show your jealousy make it low .
2006-10-31 16:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that's fine..i mean, you do trust your boyfriend, don't you?
most people have friends from both sexes, and they're ok being around members of the opposite sex without feeling attracted to them as more than just friends.
just go out with him and his friends sometimes so you can get to know everybody and i'm sure that will ease your fears and jealous tendencies.
2006-10-31 16:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...if you trust him...then it should be alright. He still gave you invite...so he wasn't hiding anything.We all have jealousy and sometimes the simplist little thing can make it appear...like other girls....Just let him do his thing...and tag along next time. I really don't think it was his fault that the girls were there....and it wasn't his fault you couldn't go....you'll be okay...if it were girls only....then you can think about that....
2006-10-31 16:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋