Is there any way to ever trust anyone else again after being hurt and deceived in a past relationship? I am a good girl (loyal and extremely honest) and my EX was a real ***hole and hurt me very badly. I didn't know he was lying to me and now I am so afraid that I can be so easily duped. How can you EVER trust a man again?
2006-10-31 15:59:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know it will be hard to trust again, but it can be done. The only way to trust again is to LET yourself trust. You can't let a bad relationship with one man destroy your trust of all men completely. I wouldn't jump right into dating again, and certainly not a relationship. You need to take some time for YOU, no one else. You need to relax, be happy, hang out with your friends, and just be you. Someone will come along for you, and if you are attracted, you can approach with caution, but at the same time, don't compare this guy to the guy who just hurt you. If you are interested in someone have an open mind. Most guys love a woman who is honest and loyal, so someone will be lucky to have you, just take your time.
Most importantly, you need to forget the guy who just hurt you, forget him and move on. It will take a little time, but it can be done.
2006-10-31 16:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
depends on "you" if you ever want to trust a male again. Do you think maybe a male needs to be in your future, i.e. to have children with? Most times in life we continue to attract the same kind of people, so go talk this out with a counselor, find out what went wrong, figure out why you attracted this guy, and know better next time.
2006-11-01 00:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, in this world, there’s gonna be **** like that happening. It’s a sad thing but it shouldn’t change your opinions on a guy. This world would be **** if you can’t trust another guy again.
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And you know what? That guy is some dumb f*ck. Forget him; if he’s going to hurt you that badly, then he’s no good.
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There’s always one guy out there that’s going to be waiting for you :]
2006-11-01 00:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
keep on wanting to trust, or you destroy yourself. Give the next one a chance. Keep your eyes open for sneaky stuff. Even good guys make mistakes but hopefully they learn from them. He will come along. Get healthy if you are not now. His loss.
2006-11-01 00:13:09 · answer #4 · answered by michael c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's hard...but you will. there are good men out there. I found one and like you...found it hard to trust. You just have to let it be, the way it's going to go.Trust is hard to find...because it's hard to give. You don't have to put your guard down...but just know that people make mistakes.....and it's up to you to forgive or forget. Don't punish someone for others mistakes.Punish on a needed bases.
2006-11-01 00:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure but maybe you should first get some therapy to make sure YOU'RE OK. After all, why did you pick him as a boyfriend in the first place? Are you possibly self-destructive? Maybe you're a masochist deep inside?
Only with counseling will you be able to develop better judgment and learn to trust appropriately.
2006-11-01 00:04:09 · answer #6 · answered by The Divorce Guru 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Time will help. Anyone that truly wants to get to know you will give you the time to feel comfortable with them. Try meeting people in different places, initiate conversation. Good luck.
2006-11-01 00:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by Supplicant 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let's hope so....I had been burned a thousand times and finally met the love of my life. If I didn't give him a chance I would have never known. Good luck.....I am SURE you will meet the right man!
2006-11-01 00:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should be able to.
Just try putting a bit of thought into your choices in men and I'm sure you won't have any problems.
2006-11-01 00:08:42 · answer #9 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
learn from the past, dont trust him until you know him....everyone goes through bad brake ups and we all survive, dont worry, you will too
2006-11-01 00:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋