I just got strung along and dumped several times by this man. He told me back in July that he wanted to break up because he couldn't handle the idea of being "stepfather to a child with a disability" because my son has Asperger's Syndrome. Well, he wrote me an email 2 or 3 weeks later saying "I suffer as my heart longs for you," so I called him (stupidly) and asked him out. Since then, it's been me begging to have sex (ridiculous, as most people consider me quite beautiful!) with him and him being reluctantly horny. Finally, we agreed to stop trying to even be friends, much less "friends with benefits," because the truth is I'm madly in love with him and he's just not that into me (though he claims to love me). I'm humiliated at having chased him for so long. But that's my pattern: if I am into a man, I cling and smother the relationship. How can I stop this pattern and find love? How do I keep away from him? What if he calls?
2006-10-31 15:59:13 · 5 answers · asked by nondescript 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that you're aware of the problem is the first step in stopping it. You know you have a tendency to cling/smother. In the future, try to allow the man to chase you more. Have a life outside of your man. Hang out with friends once in a while. Let him know that your life doesn't end when he's not around.
Also, forget about this current loser. There's too much bad history and it'll probably take too much effort to overcome. If he calls, don't answer or call back.
2006-10-31 16:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The guy was in it for sex. You were a good lay and gullible. You deserve better. He only came back because he wasn't getting any elsewhere..
You are pretty, you have a good heart, you have more things going for you than your looks, but your insecurities are getting the best of you. Dump the jerk. You deserve better.
2006-10-31 16:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mr Cellophane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO REALIZE THAT THIS IS A PROBLEM AND
NOW YOU CAN SEE IT FOR WHAT IT IS. YOU CAN
DO THINGS THAT WILL MAKE YOU HAPPY, BE A WONDERFUL
MOTHER TO YOUR CHILD. DO THINGS WITH FRIENDS
AND WHEN HE CALL TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE DONE WITH
THE GAMES. BUT YOU NEED TO MEAN IT. OTHER WISE
HE WILL CONTINUE TO CALL YOU. TIME TO LET THIS
LOSER GO. AND FIND YOU SOMEONE THAT WILL
APPRECIATE YOU.
2006-10-31 16:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget him, you also need to learn how to control your dependency on men, you have to remind yourself that you don't need them, your son needs you 100% f k a man, he anit worth it
2006-10-31 16:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by davionmw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend more of that energy on your son.....
2006-10-31 16:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋