I just want to be able to give birth again and love it. I feel like this is my last chance. I'm more verbal with telling everyone my want. But hubby is happy with our 15,11,&8 year olds. I'm happy too, but have room for just one more little one.
Am I crazy or is this the start of the midlife crisis that women sometimes go thru?
For the last 8months that's all that is on my mind is another baby.
Will this feeling go away or should I just find some other way to fulfil my need and want.
I just feel like being all to that little someone.
Any suggestions?
2006-10-31 15:48:44 · 10 answers · asked by sophistcated1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You have three beautiful children in the here and now. Give them the attention they deserve and stop pining for something new. If the three blessings you already have do not fulfill your need to be a mother--then you have deeper issues and no amount of new babies will fill that need.
If your husband doesn't want more, it would be wrong to do something behind his back or nag him until he gives in. If he is the primary breadwinner, it would be selfish to force that upon him.
You are blessed with three children, give them love and nurturing when you start thinking of another baby.
2006-10-31 16:23:39 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people are confusing top priority to the childs basic needs. Your Marriage and Husband are first, with children a very close second. You see, making your marriage the top priority doesnt mean neglecting your kids. You still show them all the love in the world, you still feed them and provide for them , you still make sacrifices for their well being. But, if your marriage isnt first, then it'll fall apart. Thus the family unit being broken and leaving your children as a statistic. This is why your marriage comes first. It should be sacred - so many children come between marriages, its because they are given the wrong priority. Teach your children the value of marriage, dont teach them to put their life partners second once they pop out babies. Children come , grow and go. And the only one there for you always will be your partner. Dont put eachother second.
2016-05-22 23:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bibiana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iv been there and its a desperate attempt to hold on to woman hood. Visit a child care place for a day OR two. Strap a 10 lb. weight on your hips and chase after a toddler. You will for get a new baby. That baby will be going to kinder garden when you become a grandmother. Do you really want to go to PTA with your child and grandchild? Relax sit back and look forward to your 40's with your husband.
2006-10-31 15:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by timex846 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 kids are a lot already. You have to also think about getting them thru college & the costs with that. Maybe hubby wants to see the light at the end of the baby tunnel & have time for just you & him later.
2006-10-31 15:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by george g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband my be starting to get excited w/ the concept of having you to himself, a 8 year old takes up alot less of your time than a newborn or 4 year old. Openly talk to him & ask him what his concerns are by doing so you may decide you do not want another baby or he may decide he wants another. By communicating his reasoning will come out, he may discover he really has none, on hop on board. Good Luck!
2006-10-31 16:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children are growing up. They don't need the same level of mothering that you gave them in the past.
When they were little they depended on you for so much & I really feel that you did a great job with them when they were young.
Now as they are getting older & don't need you as much you feel that you arn't needed & long to have a new baby to have & take care of.
You children still need you very much but in much different ways.
It would be far better to adapt you mothering to the changing needs of your children than to have another one.
2006-10-31 16:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Floyd B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want more kids, you can't really convince him otherwise. Maybe you just need to be around a young baby to get your "fix", but then you can take him or her back to his/her mother. If you have time, try volunteering at a daycare or heck, even babysitting (which I'm sure you'd have no trouble with since you have 3 kids of your own).
2006-10-31 16:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all looking at your kids ages! they are self sufficient...another baby would really disrupt your house hold....maybe your husband is thinking about that but if that isn;t a factor and you are financially stable...go for it !
2006-10-31 16:00:40 · answer #8 · answered by kamsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want another baby with him if he doesn't want another one? I've been through this battle and believe me it takes its toll. Pushing the issue, isn't worth it. Good luck!
2006-10-31 15:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by welch1198 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to compromise! it isn't just about what you want, you guys really need to sit down and talk!
2006-10-31 15:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by John P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋