me and my boyfriend i have been wanting to get married but.....we fight alot and i don't his family like me & i don't think some of my family likes him......we also have an 6 or 7 year difference....but that doesn't matter to me.....and every now and then he calls me "fat" or "an stupid *****" or "a lazy *****".....should i still marry him or not???
2006-10-31 15:18:31 · 22 answers · asked by krystal_loves_you88 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Without actually knowing the two of you, it's hard to answer. Being called what you said he calls you would certainly put me off though, especially if it's NOT during an argument. As for the family side if things, well, if either of you are close to your families, that's bound to cause some friction at some stage in the relationship. I think I'd just keep going as you are at the moment and see how things pan out. As one person said, you shouldn't really need to be asking a heap of strangers something like this....maybe you already know the answer.
2006-10-31 15:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by bougainvillaea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, definitely not. It's great that you love each other, but you don't always have respect for each other and obviously are not always kind. You also don't have very good communication skills, otherwise you'd have arguments you'd work out, not frequent fights. I don't care about the age difference or that your families don't get along. What concerns me is that a couple with an unstable relationship should not be getting married. It will only make things worse, not fix things. You shouldn't rush something like this. You both need to work on the relationship so it gets to the point of being healthy and strong enough for marriage. Good luck!
2006-10-31 15:31:34 · answer #2 · answered by ixi26c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The divorce rate in America is over 50% and most of that is within the first year of marraige... I'd move to NY live with him for 7 years and you get what called "Common Lay Marraige" the state sees you both as a married couple so you file your taxes together and have some rights but if it fails you don't have to spend a thousand dollars to get a divorce.
To me marraige is taken way too seriously... love is what will keep you together not a piece of paper...
2006-10-31 15:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by IceyFlame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy? If you marry someone who calls you such names, he has no respect for you and it will most likely get worse, till he finds someone better and prettier and leave you. The age difference isn't anything unless one of you is under 18. But families not liking who you are with, they don't have to cause it is YOUR life not theirs. Take your time, there is no rush, you might be surprised what could happen if you wait even 6 months. If it is meant to be, it will happen later too. I would definitely not marry any man who called me names. That is not love.
2006-10-31 15:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I look at it this way>>>
If the good outweighs the bad (if it's 90% good & 10% bad), then go for it.
If the bad outweighs the good (if it's 90% bad & 10% good), then don't do it.
If it's 90% bad, it doesn't stand much of a chance working out, so why go thru all the trouble (the headaches & heartaches) of doing something that probably wouldn't turn out to be good for you?
2006-10-31 15:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about it the way you are fighting now. listen to the words he is calling you. do you want to be called that for the rest of your life. plus marrage is not just between the to of you its like you are marring his family and vice versa do you think if you had kids this won't effect them too. so think about it What will it be like in the future is it worth all the pain?
2006-10-31 15:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by NOT IN USE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you like being abused. By calling you names like that he's being emotionally abusive. Emotional abuse could and probably will turn physical. I'd get rid of the loser and find someone who treats you better. There are plenty of guys out there.
2006-10-31 15:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by pjrpepsi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! If you fight a lot now, and he treats you like this, it will only get worse if you are married.
He doesn't respect you. Find someone else who will.
2006-10-31 15:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if he changes, if he calls you those names he doesn't respect you, and in marriage thats a really important thing.If your relationship doesnt improve than why would you be with him and especially marry him? I say you take a break from him to let him know youre not going to take his s**t.
2006-10-31 15:24:59 · answer #9 · answered by abelssexywifey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one person should marry someone who calls him/her a "stupid%$#@" or "Lazy%$#@". Don't marry him, break it off. To put up with that kind of abuse is just plain wrong.
2006-10-31 15:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by acedelux 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋