I'm going through a lot right now and it has been like this for such a long time, I say 3 years the most. my mom is always yelling and swearing to me for no reason at all. I love my mom but I can't say that she loves me. It's just the way that she treats me, I always get the feeling that she hates me or something. I am 22 years old and I have to ask her permission to do everything. I am trying to make friends In my hometown BUT...with my mom trying to run my life all the time, I haven't had any luck with making friends. I don't have a good relationship with my mom, I wish that I did. It's like when I was younger we had a good relationship, But as I got older our relationship isn't so good. I try to talk to her But It Is hard she'll either ignore me or start treating me badly again. I didn't do anything to deserve this, all I want Is to be loved by my mom and have a good relationship with her like a mother and daughter should. please help me. I will appreciate It soooo much, thank you!
2006-10-31 15:14:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I don't think there is a mother who hates her son or daughter, maybe she's too jelaus or something, but I tell you one thing, at 22 you can get a good job and rent your own apartment, live a life of your own and no one will rule your life, but don't think bad of your mom I'm sure she loves you, good luck..☺
2006-10-31 15:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time for you two to have separate residences. This would help your relationship with her a lot. Is there any way you can find another place to live?
Also, tell her about things AFTER you do them rather than before so that she doesn't have the opportunity to tell you how to do it. It is difficult to separate from your mom, but you are a big girl now and it is time to become your own person more than simply being her daughter.
It is wonderful that you love and look up to your mom. Focus on being a person she can be proud of, and later you two can work on building a relationship of two adults who respect each other.
2006-10-31 15:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. it sounds like you're going through a rough time...
if i were you, i'd confront her, and talk seriously about the matter.
tell her you've been going through a lot lately, and you haven't been getting any support from her, and all you want her to do is love you the way YOU love HER....
no mother HATES their children.. but they might not understand them...
tell your mom about the things that are hapenning to you, open up to her, make her feel more comfortable with you.
tell her that although you want your freedom, it doesn't mean you have to butcher your relationship, it just means that you want to do fun stuff and make new friends. and without her affection and love, you might not be able to get through with it...
tell her your feelings, your true feelings...
and if she doesn't accept that... well... leave her to deal on her own.
if she can't accept you for who you are, then you can't accept her either... it might be painful, but i think it's necessary.
but i have a feeling your mom really has a very kind heart, and will accept your feelings with open arms...
i have a great relationship with my mom that i am very proud of.... she loves me and i love her right back. mother-daughter relationships are important...
hope this works out!
2006-10-31 15:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no relationship with my mother. My reasons were somewhat different but just as hurtful, I'd imagine. Sometimes you need to just cut your losses. I realized one day that I will never have a real mother who gives one sh!t about me. She just don't care. I'm 24 & she still doesn't care to this day. The only thing is, now I don't either. It's time for you to create your own happiness. Start your own life. Start your own family. Now you know how NOT to treat you kids. I feel like sometimes I am happy my mother did the things she did. If she didn't, would I have done them to my own kids? Sad. Best wishes to you.
2006-10-31 15:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by IMHO 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably not that she doesn't love you. She seems to just have issues. You are 22 years old you need to be an adult. Some relationships are toxic unfortunately some of those include our own family. If she is constantly bringing you down and keeping you from bieng a grown productive member of society and keeping you from bieng happy. You need to just get some therapy and cut back your interactions with her. Everyone wants a mother's love but is it really worth your happiness?
2006-10-31 15:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by LovePotion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your mom is stressing out over something.
The reason why she is trying to run your life is because she's afraid of you making mistakes. I'm a mom of an almost 20 year old and it drives me crazy seeing her make mistakes.
Your mom has to realize that your an adult now, and your old enough to make your own mistakes, if any.
2006-10-31 15:18:33 · answer #6 · answered by Wisconsin Sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not enough to say that your mother hates you. May be she is depressed and do not know what to do.. What is the relationship between your Father and her like? My simple suggestion is that you give her a break for about one year. if it is possible, go somewhere else to live for sometimes and see what will happen
2006-10-31 15:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 21:26:43 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling that you are not telling it all...some things are missing such as your lifestyle. You need to tell the truth and let us know what is going on before you can ask this question.
2006-10-31 16:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She loves you, she just can show it through other issues that she haves. Get an education a good job and then you can live your own life. Hopefully things will get better in time, if they don't you are at least away from her.
2006-10-31 15:44:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋