Everytime we talk on the phone we never spend more than an hour. He'll end up whining to me, talking about he's tired and how he wants to go to sleep because he works early in the morning. But, I found out he talked to this girl on the phone for 110 mins only once though (I checked his phone bill). It makes me jealous even though they are friends bc he hardly will talk on the phone with me that long. I know he loves me.. but I keep bringing up the situation to confront him with it when he refuses at me. I know it bothers him but, I can't stand the fact that he will talk to someone unsignificant for that long instead of me. I tried to leave him but he won't let me go. We been together for 2 years and everything is going well, but we argue a lot. Another time I asked him to go to this city with me. He refuses.. talking about he just wants to stay home and chill. 30 mins later he calls and asked if I wanted to go bc his cousins are planning to go now. Refuses me but not others!
2006-10-31 15:02:35 · 15 answers · asked by simply_complicated 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm. It seems that you aren't satisfied with being the girlfriend. It may not be advisable to devour his every waking hour outside of work time.
Tell yourself that he does more than enough to keep you happy. Let the man go to sleep at night so he can go to work well rested. Try to pay attention to his needs; little bits of contact frequently are much more intimate in a relationship than marathon phone calls for hours on end.
Find things to do to keep busy when he's not available and make your time together in person special.
Good luck!
2006-10-31 15:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you guys never have anything interesting to talk about, if i were you, i would start talking about stuff more interesting, be random! guys love that! and usually if a guy is talking to another girl for that long on the phone, there is more then friendship involved, trust me, i have been there. and if the whole finding something else to talk about is a problem, then what you need to do is, if he calls you, tell him you are busy, or while your on the phone with him, try and find ways to get off the phone. trust me, that should work, and make him want you more, i know how men work, and they want attention. when you are not giving him attention he will go crazy! and they like to make girls jelous, but if you make him jelous, then he will try sooo hard to be with you!
2006-10-31 15:08:32 · answer #2 · answered by hotty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An hour on the phone is a long time. Yes, men/ guys whine.
Not a good idea to confront him about you snooping through his phone bill,it will only create a huge arguement.
Next time he says No he won't go with you somewhere, go anyway. Call one of your friends to go with you.
You can't make him do something he does not want to. (Without the attitude)
2006-10-31 15:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by annie_bananie066 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... see it from his viewpoint.
Maybe it was a friend who he hasn't talked to in a really long time. I can totally understand that if that was the case.
And another thing... I don't talk to my boyfriend for more than an hour. Maybe you're calling him late... and maybe he DOES have to work early. My boyfriend goes to work early and I understand where he's coming from.
I think 2 years is a pretty long time to be able to trust him.
If you're still insecure, talk to him.
2006-10-31 15:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a serious "deal breaker" to me.
Everything is good and we argue all the time, he refuses to go out with you or talk to you on the phone.
Close your legs and mouth ( no calling or recieving them for starters 2 weeks) and see just how fast he calls and comes over@!
No joke! If the baby wants candy than make him earn it.
2006-10-31 15:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You accept the person for who they are and take the good with the bad. If there is more bad than good you need to leave. Lastly why are you looking at his phone bill? TRUST him or leave him, your distrust will lead to much bigger issues and only aggravate the situation for both of you. It sounds like you have made your objections clear and he hasn't changed yet.......getting the picture?.......your still there by his side though huh?
2006-10-31 15:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tx2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its was the same wid me and my bf...he nevergaveme enuf time..then his EX camein our life and he started sleeping wid her n ****.. and he kept parting away from me..!
1 thing i learned is tat always b sure to tell the guy tat u love him A LOT.. dunt let him b insecure and plz trust him! or mayb the example u gave us..tat he refuses u and not others..there must b going on wid him..may b a diff girl..? well i m not sure, just b happy wid him.. and i know if u leave him..its gonna hurt so badly inside ur heart, u will fell miserbale, lonely..sory this hapened to me
so talking from experience
i hope u guys stay together for ever
b happy :)
2006-10-31 15:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by meee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 options:
1. Accpet the fact that he's just not that into you, though you say he loves you.
2. Nag, whine, cry, fight and argue more and more.
3. Leave
2006-10-31 15:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him like a rock, he is a dog. Sounds as if he is stringing you along for the ride also. You will just have to leave when he is not at home.
2006-10-31 15:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by tm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE EXPERIENCE IN THIS ONE. DONT BE JEALOUS. HE OVIOUSLY ISNT INTERESTED IN YOU ANYMORE AND IS JUST KEEPING YOU FOR A HOLD THAT HE SEEMS TO HAVE ON YOU. HE IS TALKING RO ANOTHER FEMALE. I'VE HAD THAT HAPPEN ON MORE THAN ONE OCCASSION AND WELL I'VE EVEN HAD OTHER FEMALES LIVING IN MY HOUSE BECAUSE OF MY EX. THIS SEEMS TO BE OF CONTROL AND MANIPULATION. OPEN YOUR EYES BEFORE ITS TOO LATE.
2006-10-31 15:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by ahnya_aree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋