CHEATER's sign check list for men?

Question

what are the signs you have seen or that you do if YOU yourself are a cheater?

please list...

Answer 1

person who has a big list of people of the opposite sex on his/her myspace page.

person who stays on myspace longer than they do on their spouse.

person who has past one night stand on their friend list on myspace.

Answer 2

These are somewhat obvious but they are a few of the things I've dealt with over the years:

1) One thing that's been made more complicated since everyone has a cell phone these days is the whole 'not answering the phone when they should be' thing. If it rings and rings the first time you call but goes straight to voice mail every time after, it means they may have shut it off for some reason. They might give the excuse that they were in a place with a poor signal but if you weren't able to get in touch with them for hours then I'd be a bit suspicious, especially if it happens often. There are a few places where I don't have a cell phone signal at all but it mostly seems to be in certain clubs or on the subway. Rarely do I not have a signal in someones apartment. If you're in the type of relationship where you usually tell each other where you're going beforehand, it would be a little strange for your boyfriend to suddenly be always going to places with no cell phone signal. There are obviously places that can be very loud where they might not hear the phone ringing like a club, bar, party or concert. I would think that you'd be told beforehand if they were going somewhere like that or that you'd be invited. Mostly it depends on how often it happens or if it's a cell phone problem that never seemed to happen before.

2) Ignoring certain cell phone calls when you're around and trying not to let you see the display screen. If their phone rings and they quickly look at it and hid it in their pocket it might not be a good sign. They might claim it's work related and they don't want to deal with it. It's suspicious if "work" keeps calling in the evening or late at night. They may also seem to put effort into keeping their cell phone on them at all times, making sure there's never a time when you could be alone with it. If they take it to the bathroom with them or never once put it on the table they may be hiding something.

2) Lying about where they've been. When you do finally get in touch with them, they might use what seems to be a realistic excuse. Not just the more obviously suspicious excuses about getting stuck at work or in traffic or being trapped somewhere for hours without a way home. If they're a good liar then it will probably be a pretty simple story but one that makes it seem like they're admitting to having done something wrong. The person will make up a story that will take the focus off the cheating by trying to make you mad at them for something else. One example would be "admitting" to getting drunk and passing out as a reason for not calling you or answering the phone. In reality, they were wide awake somewhere, possibly sober and cheating. They may say they passed out at home, a friend's house, in the car or some weird place. They're hoping you'll get mad at them for being an irresponsible drunk then rather than realizing they may have been cheating. It's just a type of lie that's supposed to distract you from what's really going on by creating a diversion problem.

It doesn't always have to be a story involving alcohol but claiming to have been drunk or high is an excuse that people use to try to sleaze their way out of a lot of situations.

If they're really desperate for an excuse to explain why they didn't contact you for a long period of time, they might make up a story about how they were mad at you and refer back to some recent past argument. They might say that they "thought about it some more" and realized they needed a break for a day or so and that's why they were "missing" for awhile. Taking a break from someone for a couple of days after an argument is totally understandable but the person will usually tell you that they feel that way beforehand. It's a little weird and inconsiderate when they don't. It doesn't mean they were cheating but if you find that you two are getting along fine and then they randomly disappear for long periods of time only to claim afterward that they were mad at you about something, I'd wonder what was really going on.

The difficult thing with these types of liars is that it's really is hard to tell when you're dealing with one. They may really just be an irresponsible and thoughtless person and not actually a cheater. Again, you basically just have to see how often this stuff happens. If they really are just that forgetful, irresponsible or inconsiderate than maybe your better off without them anyway, even if they're not cheating.

3) Most obvious one: Accusing you of cheating even if it's pretty obvious you're not. Everyone knows that dishonest people assume everyone else is being dishonest as well. It's the paranoia that comes with lying. When you realize you're getting away with a lie you start to think that maybe other people are getting away with it too. Thieves always think people are trying to steal from them just like cheaters think people are cheating on them. The longer they get away with cheating on you the more likely it is that they'll start accusing you of it too. There's usually nothing you can say or do to convince them otherwise. They will always think your lying to them because they are lying to you.

Answer 3

Mixing up of stories, staying even a little late at work if it is continuous, not answering the phone/cell phone when staying late at work, weird charges on debit/credit card, intimacy stopping with you (he is getting some from someone else), sex not as good/ acts like it's a task rather than fun, dresses nice when going out with "his friends", coming home from with his friends in a mood that is happier than usual.

Answer 4

1. Sudden frequent late-night working
2. Less or no sex
3. Irritated if asked where he is/was
4. Takes a defensive stance when asked questions
5. Rarely calls anymore
6. Smells of unkown perfume/liptstick on collar
7. Panties in his pocket (that aren't yours)
8. Catch him in bed with another woman

Answer 5

Leaving the house at unusual hours at short notice.
Hiding telephone bills.
Hiding clothes because of lipstick stains or the scent of perfume
No eye contact
Silent treatment
Lying where you've been
Walking out of the room to take a telephone call.

Answer 6

Unexplained outings.
Clever, complicated lies.
Not trusting you.
Not being transparent and fully open to you.
Strange calls on his cell phone.
Spending too much time on the computer.

Answer 7

Check the personals ads and see if they are posting.

Answer 8

I cheated but only b/c of his stupid rules and myself. I couldn't tell him what was wrong.

Answer 9

ALWAYS LOOKING AT OTHER WOMEN
FLIRTING WITH ALL WOMEN

Answer 10

what you dont know? how old are you!...........

MEN ARE CHEATERS..so are WOMEN!!!

it weird nowadays............