I would like more information on this because I would like to, one day, get married this way. I do not want a traditional wedding.
2006-10-31 14:54:59 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Wow. Thanks for the info. Really educational and helpful.
2006-10-31 15:03:00 · update #1
I did not know that handfastings were a one year thing. Hmmm...perhaps I should get one then get a "regular" western wedding? hmmm
2006-10-31 15:06:41 · update #2
Here's a link. Enjoy. it's a good one too. Have fun.
http://www.handfasting.info/
And this wedding lasts about a year anyways, so why this way? Just wondering. It isn't a lifelong thing.
http://www.geocities.com/athens/agora/2416/handpag1.html
http://www.bellaonline.com/subjects/7174.asp
http://www.uuottawa.com/paganweddingsmain.htm
Well, I hope you enjoy your wedding. That's all.
2006-10-31 14:56:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I had a legal handfasting where we ritually "tied the knot". We made pledges to each other in the presence of our deities and an ordained priestess.
The options for a handfasting are limitless. People include the things that are important to them. We used incorporated ogham and fresh mistletoe and were handfasted in the autumn at the peak of the leaves changing (In my state that is in mid-October). It was an outdoor wedding (in an open shelter) and we had a fire in the fireplace during the ceremony. Now every year our anniversary is when the leaves are in their peak color. There is never a shortage of beautiful places to go and see on our anniversary and the changing of the leaves reminds us that we've spent another year together.
Some more websites you might enjoy:
http://ladyoftheearth.com/handfasting/handfasting.html
http://home.kc.rr.com/gemstone/weddings.html
http://www.circlesanctuary.org/events/weddings.html
I agree with the books that were suggested. They were a great help, as was the priestess who gave us some wonderful ideas and moral support.
2006-11-01 08:15:26 · answer #2 · answered by Witchy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The site that "delightra..." provided is pretty good. Read through it and make your personal decision on just how you would like to be handfasted. But remember. If you do it in a more traditional manner, you will be introduced to the Gods as husband and wife. This binds you not only in this life, but the next.
If divorce ends up happening to this union, a simple legal divorce will not be sufficient. You will still be bound in the eyes of the Gods. A separate Ritual will have to take place to unbind you so that you will not face an unwanted handfasting in the next life.
So, be sure!
2006-10-31 23:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by gjstoryteller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Handfasting is usually for a year and a day at the least. but the bride and groom can decide for them selves on how long the want it to be. if things work out it can be redone for a Longer period of time. or permanently.
Two Good books are -Handfasted and Heartjoined by Lady Mave Rhea $12.95 and handfasting & Wedding Rituals by K./Schwartzstein $16.95 if ordered from www . AzureGreen.com plus shipping. or can be found or ordered from the nearest book store . a libarery may have acopy on the shelfs also.
Have one of the books here but as usual when I want one that I've been tripping over I can't find it when I want it. Isp droped me off the line because I took to long looking for it.
2006-11-01 00:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I understand, handfasting was a way for two lovers to have a "trial run" at marriage- both parties vowed themselves to each other for a year and a day, and after this time was up they could either have a formal (read: church) wedding, or go their separate ways. A handfast agreement was considered binding for 366 days, after that, the couple was unmarried unless they had an official wedding.
2006-10-31 22:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you have Unitarian Universalists ministers in Canada, but you also might want to consider getting married by one of them. It is a "church" that teaches all religions such as Christianity, Wicca, Paganism, Humanism, Judaism, etc... saying that no ONE way is right. I was recently married by one and it was a lovely ceremony with NO religious overtones. It was just a nice and laid back outdoor ceremony. Message me if you're at all interested. They're generally a very liberal group of people who openly accept people of all backgrounds.
2006-10-31 23:01:15 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its funny that the word handfasting is for marriage, cuz if i get married i hope that will be the end of my handfasting days ,,if u know what i mean : )
2006-10-31 22:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋