I was at a Halloween party this week end and I got kind of tipsy. While in my drunken state I accidentally slept with my best friend. The worst part is I know that he has been wanting us to start dating very badly. (Our other friend went as far as to say that he loves me) but I have always viewed him as kind of a brother. I feel so bad! What do I do now? How can I let him down nicely?
2006-10-31 14:50:15 · 23 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest.Tell him what happend.If it was really a mistake he will 4give you.
2006-10-31 22:50:33 · answer #1 · answered by AcE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't drink too much. Then drinking a glass of wine or beer, take water instead. To let him down nicely, act to him as a brother, like you said how you feel with him. Don't flirt and act cool around him, not giving him a clue. Remember, resist the drinking, because something bad WILL happen. If he ever asks you out, just say, "(name), your just like the brother I never had...but I don't feel comfortable dating you or being in a relationship, if it's fine, can you we just be friends that's all I ask?" Be nicely and friendly about it, luckily, he hasn't been drinking too much, he will understand your reasons and hopefully, your problem will be solved. Good luck! Have fun at your party, also.
2006-10-31 22:55:05 · answer #2 · answered by shewolf2899 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not really sure what do do about this because I am going to be honest I have never been in this situation but, I would if it was me I would sit down and have a heart to heart with him it might feel kind of awkward but it needs to be done just ask him what his feelings are toward you and let him know that you guys are really good friends and you would hate something to happen to your frienship and that if you date or something like that you feel like maybe it would not go the way it should and you dont want to loose your best friend
2006-10-31 22:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, are you sure you don't have any feelings for him apart from just a friendly one? If you slept him, (even accidentally) you don't exactly find him physically repulsive do you? If you want to save your friendship and go no further, have a frank talk with him asap. Tell him you were drunk and things went too far. If he doesn't accept this, you will have to stop seeing him. It will be too hard for him to keep seeing you just as a friend after what happened. Good luck!
2006-10-31 23:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi dear please don't guilt your self please it has happened to alot of people.the first thing to think about is if you used condoms please say yes and if not get tested
i know i sound serious buy sex is serious you know the saying after pleasure there is pain .i know you you don't love him as a boy friend and the easy way is the truth you love him like a brother right so you would want the best for him .you would want some one to love him the way he loves you and he deserves that don't you think he deserves the best to find real love some one who loves him back tell him that in a nice way that he would be hurting himself in the long run because you love him like a brother and say the night we had was special but it made me realize even more that i love you as my best friend that i will always have your back you will always have a shoulder to cry on .a true friend is better than a 'girlfriend
and i will always be there for you thick or thin friends for life and always remember that a girl friend can leave you but a true friend would never
2006-10-31 23:07:26 · answer #5 · answered by candice d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask yourself how you really feel about him. Your heart won't lie to you. Do you like him this way or not. If not as you say. You two were already friends so make sure you stay that way. He got to sleep with you so he should be happier than before. He probably knows that you want to be just friends and let him know with honesty. Just tell him somthing like this. You are a dear friend to me, and I don't really regret the other night, (unless you do, then leave this out) but I want for our friendship to stay the way it was as before sleeping together, as friends. Who knows you might want to sleep together again, just keep him in line with your feelings. Hope this helps.
2006-10-31 23:01:48 · answer #6 · answered by michael c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that you don't view him as a brother. Even drunk there is no way I would sleep with my step-brother! GROSS! Really look inside yourself and be sure that there isn't more there on your side. Alcohol has a tendency to be a truth serum! If you are 100% sure then sit him down and explain it to him. You, hopefully, haven't ruined the friendship, but awkward times lay ahead.
2006-10-31 22:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by alicia0821 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol isn't an excuse for poor behavior and people don't "accidentally" have sex....clothes don't fall off spontaneously and penises don't enter vaginas with no one's help...
You should feel bad...he's got every reason to think you dig him, and you're about to tell him you don't...this scenario is usually reversed with the woman digging the guy and thinking because they had sex, he's going to want to be with her...only to learn he doesn't (not anymore)...
Be as tactful as you can...and if your judgement is so clouded and poor when you drink, you should consider leaving alcohol behind...
2006-10-31 22:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up with him while having sex!
Whilst in the thorws of passion, bad things seem a lot better.
That is the way to let someone down gently!
2006-10-31 22:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by Brad NZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW u made a big mistake just tell him striaght up it was an accident nothing like that was suppose to happen between you and him and u believe you and him are better off friends cause u dont want nothing to come between your friend ship
2006-10-31 22:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont let him down. go out wit him. not dating a guy just cuz ur his friend and still hangin out with him makes u a real tease and its pretty heartless. but he shouldnt have taken advantage of u when u were drunk, ill give u that
2006-10-31 22:53:03 · answer #11 · answered by Cole 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋