No Boyfriend + Being Lonely = ???

Question

My question is for all you people that hate being single because you tend to have a lonely feeling.

Being single is not ALL that bad, I mean its drama free in the relationship department (okay maybe not fully but its less dramatic).
but, being single also brings me the lonely feeling which I hate!
I know alot of people will say "well go get a boyfriend...."
it's not that easy for me, I don't and can't talk to guys easily and the ones I can get along well with are already taken.

so my question is what helps you get the lonely feeling to get away? it can be anything. any suggestions would be great, thanks.
or any tips to talk to guys better/easier would be appreciated also.

Answer 1

you don't have to be with someone to be happy. but, you probably will need a friend or two to just go hang out with. i always go with my best friend to sonic and wal-mart (we live in a really small town, and so we drive to the next town) yeah, it sounds really lame, but we aren't lonely-(she is engaged though, but i'm sure not, nowhere close-)

Answer 2

Pathway

The days float by, sunrise to sunset, endlessly repeating their cycles as we idly crouch in the ditches along our roadway of life.


Finding no solace in the warmth of the sun, nor comfort in the dark cool of the night, we drift along, missing the emotion of the moments that pass us by.


There is more, we cry to no one in particular, why can't we feel it, or see it or tremble with excitement and anticipation of events to come?


Now rather than then, we focus not on the "would be", or the "might have", but rather on the "should have" and the "could have" of what we expected long ago.


Alas, those days are gone. Now is the time, now is the moment we have. Should we continue to dwell on that which can't be changed? Should we dream of things that didn't come to pass? Shall we wallow in the self-pity and grope through the dreams that never materialized?


We can choose. There is no one else that can deliver us from the depressive and destructive remembrances of what we desired. Things gone by are dead. Like the locust that hatched out and left it's lifeless shell to hang on a tree limb, so we can let circumstance control our destiny. We will become an empty shell, oblivious to those around us, uncaring and unresponsive to those who question our attitude and apparent lifeless condition.


If we prefer, like the butterfly that emerges from its cocoon, we can spread our wings and become a creature of beauty. No one can deter us from what we want and long for. Nothing can stop us from the ecstasy we will derive from energizing our thoughts and wills towards new horizons.


The sun will rise with new glory, the wind will carry a fragrance that is new and exciting. The morning dew will glisten in the stream of light we explore. Nighttime will bring an awareness of glimmering and shining stars, twinkling in glorious unison to show us the beauty of life.


Taste the day, smell the night. This is our choice. Win it, keep it, hold on to it. For it is life.

Answer 3

Alone and loney do not have to be synonymous...and people in relationships often get loney, so having a boyfriend is no sure way to prevent that...

Being loney is a poor reason to get involved with someone...it means you are needy and wanting someone else to fill a void in your life that you've not filled on your own...you've made them responsible for your happiness (and that's quite a burden to put on someone else, and unfair)...

Learn to enjoy life no matter what your relationship status is...take up hobbies, spend time with friends, travel, take a class...when you are happy with your life and kewl with being single, is when you'll be in the best position to be a good partner to someone else...

Don't let lack of bf cause your life to be less than it could be...choose to be happy and then make your life the best you can make it...it's too short to waste being blue!

Answer 4

Fill your life with hobbies or community service or something else that you enjoy doing that has a positive impact on you or the community. You won't have time to feel lonely and you might just meet someone who shares the same interests....and maybe has an interest in you, too. Good luck!

Answer 5

Hon, guys are like anyone else! We feel the same way as you do. Girls can be so difficult to talk to, nevermind call, after we meet them!

I have found that if you pretend, in your mind, that everything is equal, we can all play the same game! Yeah, I know it's not really a game, but hang with me ...

In doing this, I believe that I am the Man of their dreams! I am near perfect for them! This makes it a lot easier to talk, to share!

Guys, in general, like women who are real, so be yourself! We also appreciate intelligent women, honestly. If you can think for yourself, that is a BIG plus!!!!

Hope this helps! BedThyme here!

Goodnight and best wishes,

The Ol' Sasquatch Ü

Answer 6

hang with friends. Devote more time to clubs and sports. I was always not very close with girls although i love them, and recently got a girlfriend. Didnt work so well and she was full of drama which bothered me alot. So yeah, just be social with anybody. You dont have to have a serious relationshitp with someone to not be lonely

Answer 7

for me personally,
the lonely feeling comes from being horney.
no lie, thats true....so watch your montly cycle.
Is it getting close to that time? Then get in a good ehemm...rub down =).

and be done with it.
you absolutly right, for me I think I have to wait until Im alittle more mature....

Answer 8

haha sometimes i wish i was single and i wasnt going out at all, i put all my time into it and then the break up hurts really bad.you can probably get away from the loneliness by hanging out with friends.

Answer 9

Get out and do some volunteer work. It's the best cure for loneliness.

www.volunteermatch.com

You'll meet all sorts of great people...and who knows....

; )