My roommates are constantly in the living room of our apartment. It's a central space so it make sense that they are easily tempted to just sit down on the sofa, but honestly, everyday they are sitting there doing homework, watching tv, socializing, eating, taking naps, studying, and you name it. They each have their own separate rooms, but they hardly go into them unless they need the bed or clothes. Is this behavior normal?
2006-10-31 14:31:34 · 15 answers · asked by bansri47 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
1. Yes, it's the living room, but no where you sleep every night, eat every meal (that's what the dining table is for, duh), and not a space for you to leave everything you own.
2. I believe I didn't emphasize how often they are in there. This not your normal socializing and interacting time, it's more like 16/24 hours per day.
2006-10-31 15:04:54 · update #1
Yes, it's normal behavior, especially for college students.
But that doesn't mean it's acceptable since it bothers you. While the socializing and watching TV is what the room is there for, they shouldn't be using it for everything else if it upsets you. Talk to them about why it upsets you. You have an equal share in the place, and you pay the same amount they do for rent. Let them know that you would like it if they could use the dining room table for meals, their rooms for naps, etc... Tell them WHY you want them to use the other rooms. Like maybe the mess from their eating in the living room bothers you, and you don't want pizza crumb on the couch when you go to sit down. Maybe you feel like you can't watch TV when they are studying. Or you aren't comfortable doing your own tasks when they are napping because you don't want to wake them up. There shouldn't be a problem finding an agreement for what will work for all of you. Be calm, and don't get mad at them. Having a long conversation about the differences in your lifestyles is the best way to find a middle ground that you can all live with.
2006-11-01 04:55:39 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there's no rule that says that no one should use the living room. I take it that by being in the living room they can be together and it is less confining than their own rooms. You might want to come up with a rule that forbids them using the living room for more than 1 hour each day. Why is the tv in the living room anyway? If it is theirs, it should be in their own room.
You might even charge them a higher rent for using the living so much.
2006-10-31 19:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do that...and it never occurred to me that it might be annoying. I mainly spend way more time in the living room than my room because I'm just more comfortable working on the coffee table than the desk in my bedroom, and the clutter in my room overwhelms me when I'm trying to concentrate (I'm due for a major cleanup)...
I share an apartment with one roommate...I hope I'm not annoying her by being in the living room all the time!
2006-10-31 14:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the "living" room--what else do you want it for? If they all do this stuff in their rooms - then it's just a room with a sofa and TV, not being used. Isn't that what you did at home with Mom and Dad?
2006-10-31 14:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by fallingstar 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Perfectly normal. Everyone has thier favorite comfort zones. The living room and bed room are to two main places my family hangs out at.
2006-10-31 14:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its normal...you like more private time, they are more social... I know how u feel....I had the same thing in university and every time I came home they had not moved from those couches.
Its life....eventually I got my own apartment and isolated too much, try for good balance and accept them for who they are as best u can!
2006-10-31 14:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by judge_smails_sir 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, this is normal - in fact that is where I am at right now. It is a good way to socialize with others.
2006-10-31 14:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by Bunny 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure, there is nothing wrong with hanging around and sociallizing all the time. There are some people that are just like that. There is also nothing wrong with being alone in your room, as long as you aren't building bombs or raping children. Actually, rape all around is bad, oh, and no terrorist meetings please.
2006-10-31 14:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it's not normal. If you're annoyed with them, let them know. After all, you're all sharing the living room.
2006-10-31 14:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i think its normal..i wish my roommates would come out of their rooms and socialize now and then.
2006-10-31 14:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by askmike 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋