i love my girlfriend more than anything else ive ever loved. we have been dating for 4 years. i cant imagine life without her by myside, but she has decieved me. she admitted to this but she did not give detail to what actually happened but i think it was pretty bad. i dont know what to do. should i stay with her or move on? i want to stay with her but the real problem is that she doesnt even know what she should do. she doesnt think i deserve her but i believe she is more than i deserve as it is. please help...
2006-10-31 14:18:17 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends how good in bed she is. All women will cheat at one time or another. If she good in bed then stay with her until you finish using her up then throw her out like yesterday garbage.
2006-10-31 14:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about this, I have been in that boat myself but it was a guy cheating, Unfortunately, my motto is, once a cheater always a cheater. Maybe you should discuss if she is feeling neglected by you in some way. Usually people cheat because they are lacking something in their current relationship. Not suggesting that you are in the wrong, but it sounds to me like she is not happy deep down and is looking for alternate ways to satisfy what ever it is that she feelings is missing. She may not even know what it is just that there is a void of some sort. My advice to you is to look out for number one. My biggest problem was that the trust that was once there never returned and in the end, although we decided to stay together, the lack of trust broke us up. Good luck with whatever you decide and remember you deserve the best in life in all aspects!! TAKE CARE
2006-10-31 14:26:24 · answer #2 · answered by Cats Meow ;) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HER. I def understand how you feel its hard becaue you love her so much but at the same time you cant be with her. You will always have the image of her in bed with someone else giving them what belonged to you and only you. Just think about how much you love her and what sort mindset you would have to be in to cheat on her. It would be tough and it would hurt cause you know you betayed a person that means so much to you. It takes alot to cheat especially for a girl. We have no other head to think with. Its just logic. If she truly loved you shoe would not allowed for it to have happened. Unless she was raped , sex is never an unconcious mistake. Good luck i hope all is well.
2006-10-31 15:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by lovesickprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people make mistakes and if you both love eachother you shouldnt throw it away especially if you guys have been together that long you should forgive her but find out why she did it it is essential to keep a good relationship to fidn out what your doign wrong, all these people are telling you to break up with her but honestly if you love someone you dont turn your bakc on them that quick its not that easy everyone makes mistakes but if she has done it more than once than she doesnt deserve you once is a mistake twice is she is a hoochie mama listen to your heart and talk to her and get everythign out in the open so you guys can start over again and fix your problems good luck to both of you and i hope she deserves another chance be careful though
2006-10-31 14:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what is important to you. My girlfriend cheated on me, when I found out I was enraged. When I calmed down I realized it was only sex, I could forgive that in time, I loved her and the attachment was emotional and physical but more emotional. I considered working it out but then I discovered, where as she said it was 1 time and only him, it was actually for 6 years with about 15 guys & girls total. The lies and deceit hurt more than the sex. Typically cheaters are without redemption but I would give her a chance to say her peace, verify the facts and decide what is more important to you: love or sex. Be prepared to separate yourself completely if neccessary...the lonelyness that follows is the hardest part but it passes if you focus on you and get on with your life. Living well and happy is the best revenge.
2006-10-31 14:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Hat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cheated that is all you need to know, leave her, or stay and she will cheat again and you will perhaps find out all of the details are you kidding. of course you deserve better, no one deserves to be cheated on, if you are not happy leave the relationship. When you love someone, you can not imagine being with someone else. God bless
2006-10-31 14:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
seriously, it will hurt a lot- a whole lot but you need to dump her. she is a confused chic that has no respect for you. You deserve better, Don't think about how many years you put into it. Just say it was cool while it lasted but I'm a better person than to allow someone to disrespect me in such a bad way. the confusion part -> don't be around those types of women they will really f up your head.
2006-10-31 14:23:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's right! You don't deserve her. You deserve better. You deserve someone who will treat you with respect and not take you for granted. Don't stay with her. I had a man that cheated and he was sorry too. He said it would never happen again. It did, over and over and over. For years I let him walk all over me. I wasted 10 years of my life on this man. Please, please, don't do that to yourself. There are so many woman out there that are just waiting to treat you like you deserve to be treated. You need trust in a relationship or you have nothing. You can't trust her so move on. She doesn't deserve you at all. Take care.
2006-11-01 12:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by Jules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seem she does not love u much now as she said she does not know what to do. Well, she had cheated on u and seem not remorseful. if she does not want to give up the other guy then believe me u should left her. and she already said u do not deserve her. I understand yr feeling as i had been through it b4. U will find someone that deserve yr love.
2006-10-31 14:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by Renew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has told you that you dont deserve her? I'm not going to call her names, but damn! I've been there, talking stuff and calling each other names. Its not worth it, she will just pull you down more and make you feel worse in the future. Have a serious talk with her and find out how she truly feels about the relationship. Hope it works out for ya. :) ♥
2006-11-01 03:12:00 · answer #10 · answered by ◙Blue-Eyed♥Red-Headed♥Bella◙ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is sorry and would liek to make up for it, giev her a chance. i'm sure she'd like to be with u cz she came clean with you. give her a chance and build a future together. if you love her as much as you claim you do, give her a chance, accept her mistakes and flaws, because i'm sure you woudl like to have a future with her, right? Show that you want her nonetheless, give her teh security she needs and she'll give you her entire heart and soul once she feels that you're sincere and truly want to spend you life with her.Forgive and forget the past, look toward in building a future with her. Include her in all your plans. Good luck!
2006-10-31 14:29:03 · answer #11 · answered by kittenheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋