Regardless whether it was problems with school, or health problems or whatever problems..
I've felt this more than once.
Even though the blame is much more sublte these days.. some of the questions they ask are so....something..
my daughter had problems in school and every single time, they would ask me what age she was toilet trained! Assumming of course that if I had toilet trained her too early, then I was the root of all her problems...
2006-10-31 14:13:36 · 7 answers · asked by helpme1 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I understand how you feel. Yes, I've been there. Just recently I was told my youngest has low iron. Well, I work as a healthy foods consultant. I am familiar with nutrition and I feed my kids the best that I can. My oldest went through a period of time where he had low iron and my husband was always borderline anemic as a child. I'm doing my best. But it was implied that this was my fault. I'm not sure how since I do what I can and they take a high quality daily vitamin. I'm no idiot when it comes to nutrition. Also, my kids both have allergies and I've had a person imply that was somehow my fault. How on earth can I control that?!
I just do my best to ignore these people. I know I'm a good parent and we all just do the best we can. We're not perfect and I don't think any of use should be expected to be.
2006-10-31 14:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always feel like I should have done better. My little one had a cold for a week, and whe I finally took him to the doctor, it was actually bronchitis, I felt bad, but then they say that colds can't be treated with antibiotics, so what are you to do?
My bigger one was behind in reading at the begining of the school year, and I feel like its my fault. He seems to be doing better, but they want him tested for learning disabilities. Mybrithers both had LD, and one was ADD, so I feel like I've cursed him with my DNA, and I worry about him being allowed to slack off through school with a label like that. Then he'll be out in the real world never havin had to meet the same expectations as the other kids. But again, what can you do?
2006-10-31 14:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are always blamed for everything their kids do, don't do, health issues, no health issues, brains, no brains, toilet training, etc. The problem starts when their born and ends sometime after they are married with kids of their own. Just let it slide. As for the person that asks about toilet training, tell them your still working on it (lol)
2006-10-31 14:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by kny390 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal for kids to blame their own parents for their problems. Yes we tend to get mad at our parents for things that we don't like about ourselves and we blame them because they brought you into the world. Yes I have blamed my parents for everything numerous times; their divorce, my anger problems, my health issues, eating habits, etc.
But part of this comes in genetics, we inherit some things from parents that make us "more like them" where the parents need to set an example for their kids so they don't grow up to be lazy adults and not be responsible for their own lives.
I blamed my parents for everything because they are responsible for your upbringing. No parent is perfect but they still need to do their jobs as parents as good as possible in order for their children to be successful in life.
2016-08-01 21:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, dont think they are blaming you.... the dynamics of the family is what they are questioning and depending on the child themselves as there are a whole range of development, nueroligical, physical, social developments out in the world today and its the actual person who is asking the question..... as they (professionals) might be noticing something that you are not aware of, and I am not blaming you. Parenting is a learning issue in our lifes and what we do not know then and what we learn is due to the children we raise and have. DONT BLAME YOURSELF AND DONT TAKE IT PERSONALLY, just ask what they are thinking....
2006-10-31 16:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to me all the time! The Public School system can't lay it on heavy enough. Falling into the trap of reasoning/explaining doesn't work; they just lay it on you more. I ignore them and stay away as much as possible from school personnel.
2006-10-31 14:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by Brigid O' Somebody 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make friends with the teacher and school staff, once they get to know you, they will understand that you are a decent parent, you are involved in her education, and you are doing the best that you can.
2006-10-31 15:17:31 · answer #7 · answered by twelfntwelf3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋