How does one deal with FAVORTISM of a younger sibling?!! (911)?

Question

Okay so im the oldest. My parents favour my younger sister. Im a little immature but im a good kid. I dont go out so im not one of those kids hanging out till midnight on the street. My dad has alot in common with my sister so is always hanging out with her buying her things. He never listens to me, ever. The only time they pay any attention to me is when i get a bad grade in school. It gets be so frustrated. Like when i was in grade 8 i was never aloud to have sleepovers and still not, but ofcourse my sister is aloud. Every dinner table conversation involves something relating to my sister. Im not jealous, i love my sister but my parents just always blame me for everything!! Not cleaning the kitchen table , the bathroom. SO MY QUESTION IS, HOW DO I DEAL WITH FAVORTISM AND GET MY PARENTS TO TAKE SOME TIME TO REALIZE " HEY YOU HAVE ANOTHER DAUGHTER, AND NO SHES NOT PERFECT BUT SHES STILL YOUR DAUGHTER!" please someone anwser me.. im desperate

Answer 1

Writing a letter to your parents telling them how you feel may make them realize what's happening.

Try not to blame them and accuse them of not paying attention to you.....start your sentences with "I feel"....that way they won't get defensive.

I don't know if this is the case in your family but sometimes parents pay attention to the child who they feel needs more guidance....it's not fair but sometimes that's what happens.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you feel this way. I see this a lot in family's. Do you both have the same parents like same mom and dad? If not then that could be a problem there itself. I think you should sit down with your parents and talk to them both about this feeling your having. It want hurt anything and maybe this will open their eyes a little and see where your coming from. Best wishes

Answer 3

Nobody deals with favortism well... Coming from a family of 12 children..long story... the way I dealt best with any type of favoritsm is by speaking... you need to let your parents know how you feel and if you can't talk to them maybe try writing a letter. They may not be aware of how you feel. Good Luck

Answer 4

OMG....my sister does the same thing EXCEPT SHES OLDER and shes a ....yeah not so good kid.Try to let it go really when she does that ask her to clean up or take care the the mess she made.If she doesnt listen and shes really spoiled,don't do anything about it.Let her know she has to take care of it herself (some blaming problems.).Okay ...ask your parents why they do that and yeah...you know talk to them.Try to get their attention , in a good way or something.Make sure it doesnt lead to bragging.

Answer 5

It does sound like a little jealousy, but what I would do is sit them down, talk to them, and maybe you'll find out what's really going on. trust me on this. It will help.