We've been emailing for several weeks, then decided to IM. I think that both of us are so 'shy' that it took us a week for someone to say the first 'hello.' Lol. Since then we've had about 10 chats, and each time, I'm the one who ends up saying hi first. Why is this? We had some good chats getting to know one another, a good phone conversation the other night. Now she's on Messenger and knows I'm on, since 5 this evening (the past 4 hours) and, ot course, hopeful as I am that she'll actually initiate a chat even ONCE, am waiting. A couple of times I waited HOURS before finally breaking down and saying hi. Tonight I decided I'm not going to be the first to start, no matter how long (by the way, I'm always on the computer because of my job, and she's on the computer most of the day and night). So what do you think? Am I being immature or too sensitive? Picky? If she's truly interested in me, can't I expect her to be the first to say hello at least ONCE??!! Sheesh!
2006-10-31 13:16:04 · 20 answers · asked by Abe Simpson 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sheesh......I agree with you on this issue, but I'm not sure how this women thinks. She could have old fashion values about it, that the man should make the first opening, or, she doesn't want to step on your toes in case you are chatting with someone else. There could be numerous reasons. Did you ever ask her why? Anyway, what difference does it make now, you like her, she likes you.....Just ask her the next time you talk. Tell her it's okay for her to say hello first. Yes, you can expect it.
2006-10-31 13:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Mia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok first off, if she knows that you work on your computer she probably just doesn't want to interrupt your work. She is shy right? that means she probably isn't someone who likes to impose themselves on other people and for all you know is stairing at her screen right now waiting for you to say hi so she can chat. If it really bothers you that much, just tell her that you feel like your always initiating the conversation and you'd love it if she would initiate it a few times. Then at least it'll be out in the open.
So stop wasting your time and initiate ...
2006-10-31 21:24:34 · answer #2 · answered by kharmageddon74 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh come on it is so much easier for you to say hello first that way she feels more like you want to talk to her. You are not immature or picky-maybe a tiny bit sensitive though! Think about her just walking the floor waiting to hear from you!
2006-10-31 22:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not have you on her buddy list, and thus cannot see when you are on, even though you can see when she is on...or perhaps she just prefers to be the one to be contacted (some women are like that)...why don't you make a point of saying something to her like "it's okay if you IM me sometimes" or something along those lines...let her know her initiating something would be welcome...or even end a conversation with verbage that lets her know you'll be waiting to hear from her...
No, you are not wrong to find it somewhat annoying...but her not initiating contact isn't necessarily a sign of disinterest so if you like her, that may just be something you'll have to accept about her...
2006-10-31 21:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is probably like every other woman online, chatting to a dozen other guys at the same time.
She has no need to come and say "hi" to you, with guys swarming around her.
The internet is just like the real world. The women just sit back and pick and choose from all the guys who approach them.
2006-10-31 21:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think she might be thinking the same thing? ;D
If you don't say hi because she doesn't say hi, she'll eventually think that you've lost interest and the whole thing will fall apart. So just keep on doing what works and maybe she'll be able to gather the courage and be the one that initiates a good conversation.
Best of luck!
2006-10-31 21:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by Aimers 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
how pathetic have we become that we are now seriously talking about IM relationship problems, go get a non communicating blow-up doll to take care of some "physical needs" then step out from behind the computer and walk around in the real world for a while and see if there's happiness without a keyboard
p.s. great Avtar, Grandpa Simpson
2006-10-31 21:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just because her IM is up does not mean she is on the computer, my IM stays on most of the time and I am not on the computer. So if you are interested just talk, who cares who says hi first. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-31 21:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good and life time things are worth the wait.
2006-10-31 21:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by steviestables 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you say you are waiting for her to call you in one of your conversations, and maybe she will. Most people can not read minds
2006-10-31 21:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋