im dating this girl i love. and everything was going really great. her dad wasnt that bad. he wanted me to tell him when i would be back and where i was going and stuff but thats understandable and reasonalbe. and it was not big deal. but lately hes been WAY to protective. i mean he past over protective. i mean he BUGED her cell phone and always calls my mom to see where i am. and it goes on.....im sick of it.i need some air. i feel like i cant make a move without him knowing. i tryed talking to him but i dont want to say something dumb and get my gf in trouble i mean she has to live with him.
how do i get him to stop??how do i get him to understand that im not going to do anything bad with his daughter??
and for the ones thats going to say "let her go" or "find someone esle" im not going to do that i love her too much......
2006-10-31 13:14:20 · 16 answers · asked by countryman 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try sitting down one on one with him and having a talk. Thats all you can do. That and dont give him any reasons to mistrust you.
2006-10-31 13:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
spend time with him, get to know him, let him get to know you and do whatever you can to earn his trust and by all means do not lie to him. He'll know. He's the guy that has to walk her down the isle someday so you want his trust and respect. Look at your own life and see what needs to be worked on. Why don't you go to lunch with him and ask him what his concerns with you are and just listen to him. He'll tell you... Tell him you aren't going to do anything bad - if it comes up - listen to him first - let him express his fears and concerns. It's hard for him too - sometimes it is a fearful thing for him -as he's losing a daughter - and hopefully he can see that he might be gaining a friend. So if you take an interest in him and listen, you might gain a wife out of it. I don't think you can ask his daughter's hand without his blessings. You may have to pray a lot. She might be his world, so it's a big deal for him.
2006-10-31 13:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by on_the_move4ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well talking to him is the right solution, you just have to make sure you go about it in the right way. The best thing you can do is find out what you can do to earn his trust, because it is obvious you don't have much. Tell him you want to continue to date his daughter, and you care about her greatly, but his lack of trust in you makes it difficult to have a good relationship with her and you want to know what you can do to make things easier between you two. If you do so, he should respect your willingness to make everything good.
No matter what, make sure you make it sound like YOU are the one that needs to do something to make it better. NEVER make it sound like he is wrong, or it will turn bad.
2006-10-31 13:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him; let him know you're concerned about him calling your Mom about his whereabouts. Ask him if you've done something to offend him, or not treated his daughter respectfully. Either he has an answer, or he'll just sit there and look stupid and stop bothering you. He'll have to give you credit for being concerned and wanting to be a gentleman. You'd be taking the high road.
If he doesn't, then your girlfriend will have to handle her dad. You've done all you can do.
2006-10-31 13:18:30 · answer #4 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's stalking you... this is a real worry... have you spoken about this to your girlfriend? Surely she could talk to her dad and see if he'll ease up on you... Maybe her dad has seen how serious you guys are getting and is freaking out a bit. Y'know, 'she's not a little girl anymore' kinda freaking out... Try sitting down with your girlfriend and her dad and talking it out. Explain how much it is upsetting you and truthfully tell him how you feel about his daughter. He should be able to see that you're sincere and that his daughter is in good hands.
2006-10-31 13:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think her dad is going way off the edge. Just tell
him about how you feel about the James Bond
scenario. Have a sit down talk, all three of you.
She needs a new phone number and phone!
2006-10-31 13:25:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must be feeling like untrustworthy because of the constant check that he does on you, and want to be trusted. you could do 2 of several things. one - show him that you are trustworthy and just answer the phone if he checks on her. he's probably just testing you on how far you would go for his daughter. two - you can look at it on his point of view. if you had a daughter and someone is dating her, wouldn't you want to find out what she's been doing? of course you'll say that you trust your daughter, but it's not the same if it's not happening to you. good luck!
2006-10-31 13:23:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can sit down with him and discuss this hearty to heart and man to man and a six of good beer might mellow him a bit. if you love this person, and you are entertaining ideas of a future marriage,it might not be such a bad idea to make friends with the girl's parents. Maybe he feels that his daughter's honor is threatened and he wants to protect her. show him you are not a bad guy and he might cool out.
2006-10-31 13:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by dread pirate lavenderbeard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. If you aren't doing anything wrong..he'll get the message sooner or later. If he bugs the cell phone only to find that nothing inappropriate was said, he'll lose interest. Just be a respectable young man and respect his (although intense) worries about who his daughter is dating.
2006-10-31 13:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-05 10:07:44 · answer #10 · answered by deparvine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋