This person is very dear to my heart and I don't have the nerve to tell them that I can no longer trust what they say.
2006-10-31 13:11:35 · 11 answers · asked by blackandwhite 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't you have to assume everything they say is a lie or exaggeration. I have dealt with a friend and a boss who was a compulsive liar.. it is hard but you have to separate being sucked into their stories and the truth (even though the truth isn't there a lot of the time) It is best to step back still care for them but realize they can't help it as a compulsion but that what they tell you isn't real.
2006-11-01 01:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pathological liar (same as compulsive) is a non-clinical term for a person who intentionally provides untrue accounts, often not to hide or gain anything in particular.
This is extremely troublesome since the person is dear to your heart. I think that because of this, you should sit that person down and let him/her know how you feel. Sometimes people lie for various reasons which may or may not be evident to others around that person. The fact that it is compulsive shows that it has gotten out of control and the person may not even be aware that it is happening.
For instance, say there is a girl who went on a date with a guy that she bragged to her friends about. Let's say the date went foul but she knew she couldn't tell the girls that because they would laugh at her. Especially since she is the only one without a steady man in her life. Knowing the circumstances of what she presumes to be the outcome, she will set in her mind a new story to tell to get a better response from her friends. She can do this by habit without knowing it if it is something done quite frequently.
The sad part is, if the girls find out, they will simply dislike that she feels she has to lie, not knowing she had a reason. Reason or not, she should realize that her friends would not put her down and they could all laugh about "bad dates." She would find support from her friends, just by trusting them.
I suggest you sit down with this person and let them know you care and that you would certainly try to help this person however you can. Let the person know that the truths that are not told will hold you b ack from trusting him/her. Tell that person this in a way that is not offensive. The person will truly appreciate that you are concerned.
2006-10-31 14:31:21 · answer #2 · answered by terryoulboub 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to trust someone who is a liar, even when they are very close to you. It hurts to know that they are lying to others including you. All you can do is pray for them, that they will get through this situation, and become ma better-honest person who someone can trust. Just wait and see what happens. Lying is not the way to get out of things, it just causes more problems.
2006-10-31 13:22:13 · answer #3 · answered by hearts101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently divorcing a compulsive liar...after 13 years of putting up with him believing his own lies. Trust me, THEY DO NOT CHANGE! So, you'll either have to learn to accept the fact that this person lies about EVERYTHING, even insignificant things that most people wouldn't even think about fibbing about... or you move on.
Some of us attract liars easier than others, I guess. It sucks.
2006-10-31 13:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by in love love love... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You face the fact that they are liars & know that you can't beleive what they say & go on with your life . If you confront them you will be wasting your time & energy.Trust me I married into a group of them.I amuse myself by laughing inside at some the lies I know they tell.
2006-10-31 13:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple... you don't. I think you should tell this person that your trust has been broken. Why play along when you really know what's going on? Honesty is as they say the best policy.
2006-10-31 21:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by Das 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you trust them- to keep doing what they always do, to lie. to repeat the same action and expect a different response is stupidity. so trust me when i tell you that if nothing changes neither will the lies.
2006-10-31 13:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by much2big4school 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't!!!!!!!!!!! lying, cheating, and stealing.......
the worst things you can do......i know a lot of people
that tell little white lies, they only get bigger........
and you know when they lie too....... I don't
even count them as a friend, any-one that would lie
to you ain't worth a damn.........can't trust them with money,
food, kids, or your own life......
2006-10-31 14:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant trust them at all cause they are going 2 do again.
2006-10-31 13:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to one like that. Not only did she lie, but she actually believed her own lies. She is now 1,500 miles away, and I do not miss her a bit.
2006-10-31 13:15:17 · answer #10 · answered by GreenHornet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋