dating a guy for a couple of months. he just announced he just booked a last minute vacation with a friend. the friend is a female. I asked him about her, he said she's just a close friend. I don't know if i'll be able to get over this but I don't know if I should break it off now either. i'm hurt, confused and disappointed.
2006-10-31 13:09:05 · 14 answers · asked by pear121 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just wanted to add that he said he would have preferred to go with me but didnt think i could go because of my life situation right now and he really wanted to go away....
2006-10-31 13:15:35 · update #1
I cant say for certain but even if there is nothing between them, I still dislike it. I would not have done it because I wouldn't risk it so I wonder how come he could do it so easily after acting like he is so into me
2006-10-31 13:23:02 · update #2
just wanted to say thank you for everyones feedback and advice. it's very helpful : )
2006-10-31 13:24:08 · update #3
and the question is....?
2006-10-31 13:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a different take on relationships. A relationship is either headed towards marriage or it isn't. It depends on the phase. You've been dating this guy for a couple months. In the grand scheme of things that isnt long.
If it isn't super serious yet, I support your guy's decision to do what he wants. You should be feeling the same way and have the same opportunities. If you feel the relationship is (was?) headed towards marriage, then apparently he doesn't feel that way and just made the signals clear.
You two need some frank talk and figure out where you are and where you are going.
2006-10-31 21:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there going to be more people going on this last minute "vacation"? Why all of a sudden is he mentioning this now? Okay, this is the question....do you honestly think he would ever cheat on you? If there is even a slight chance you think it is possible than you dont trust him...its hard to trust someone. But you need it in a relationship to make it work. I personally trust my man, but he would never go anywhere with just a girl, friend or not. So i think you should talk to him, tell him you want to go along and if you cant or if he wont let you than tell him that you really rather him wait till you can go with him than for him to just go with this other girl, tell him that you trust him a bit but its still early in the relationship to fully turst him. Tell him if he really cares for you than he will tell his friend that he cant this time. Ask him how he would feel if you all of a sudden said you were going on a trip with another man. Tell him if he does go than you cant promise him that you will be there when he gets back. Its your choice to believe him if he says nothing will happen.
2006-10-31 21:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he booked a trip with a female friend. And you know I totally understand that your are probably pissed. This could be looked at a few ways...one is the fact that if you are dating him why didn't he include you in his vacation plans...the other side is that maybe he just wanted to be with his friend...men are allowed to have friends of the opposite sex. I guess you have to reflect on the relationship up to this point..has he done anything else that would lead you to believe that you should break up with him??? Have their been other signs that something else is going on?? If not, maybe it's just a harmless trip..on the other hand maybe it's not. Either way it bears watching....and if you don't want to waste your time and it's not that serious of a relationship, move on...
2006-10-31 21:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by prettydebutante 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you met his friend? If she's just a friend, she should know about you and if she were reasonable, she should know that this is an awkward situation. Sounds too fishy... if you don't have an idea who this girl is, then leave him. The first few months is when you set the foundation for your relationship and if he's going away on vacation with another girl, he'll continue to keep doing things like this for the rest of your relationship.
2006-10-31 21:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for someone who wants to book a last minute vacation with you, or atleast include you in the plans.
2006-10-31 21:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by goaliegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I would not go for that at all. Its really up to you but in my book that is CRAZY!
As his girlfriend you are supposed to be the one that is his close friend and the one that goes on vacations with him, not some other girl
2006-10-31 21:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by CaTT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me and it was over, even though I hung in there... hoping...
Vacations seem to either make relationships or break them. Maybe he'll come back all yours. Then again...maybe not.
Good luck
2006-10-31 21:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by slippped 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him and his friend together then break up with him. He didn't even check if this would be okay with you...it was a last minute decision. Not smart. I'd leave him in an instant.
2006-10-31 21:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of months? You know, men and women CAN be friends without it being sexual. Maybe they have things in common you and he don't - like rock climbing, art museums or history. Why do you have so much invested in this guy after a couple of months anyway? Live your life, let him live his and if it's meant to be it'll happen.
2006-10-31 21:12:05 · answer #10 · answered by wineboy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's for you to decide if you want to keep dating him or not...I find it odd he'd book a vacation with a female friend but not the chick he's dating (and expect her to be okay with it)...
Don't believe I'd care for it much...
2006-10-31 21:12:56 · answer #11 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋