i liked this guy and then we started talking and i realize he's not all that i thought he would be... the whole pretty fast ugly attitude kind of thing. problem is now he likes me and wants to "get to know me" because he wants to ask me out... how do i nicely and gently tell him im not feeling like that so he can stop wasting his time?
2006-10-31 13:04:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*pretty face
2006-10-31 13:08:33 · update #1
I was in the same situation as you too. what i did was.... at first when i like him i gave him signals that i like him, later its like... no... he's not my kinda guy. so... when he starts liking me, he keep asking me whether he could call me, and i said "maybe tomorrow i'm busy" and..." i don't feel like talking tonight" the thing with my problem is that he's not man enough to ask me out, he's beating around the bush and waiting for me to say "wanna hang out?" so... he wouldn't get rejected.
esp if you haven't told him exactly that you liked him, use body language and communication styles to show that you aren't into him. don't give him mixed cud-be's ... just be as straight as you can (but subtly) without hurting him. he'd get the idea that you aren't interested as you are not making special effort to talk/see him and stuff. he'd backdown... but if he gets up to ask you, you have to tell him the cold truth, "i think we are better off as friends"
2006-10-31 13:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm a guy.. but I was having the same problem with a girl who (just as in your case) was not at all what I wanted.. and had changed alot just since I was talking to her as a friend. I think the best way to "Tell him" to back off, is to not tell him. Slowly distance yourself. Don't just abrubtly say "Back off" or just out of the blue stop talking to him. Just reduce the number of texts/emails/phonecalls gradually by having other things to do. You can get an excuse out of anything.. You have a doctor's appointment, you have homework, you have to go out with some friends, etc. etc. etc. the list goes ON and ON. But just start distancing yourself and cutting off contact just a little bit. I think the best way to do this is not "Cold turkey" that just ends up making someone mad, or making yourself look bad.. and you sound like a very nice person who doesn't want to burn bridges and be nice about it. SO that is my advice. Now good luck!
2006-10-31 13:09:26 · answer #2 · answered by dumpsterdd90 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him your ex bf really want's to get back together and because of your history with him you are going to give him a second chance. That way he will be disappointed but not humiliated, and the rejection won't be as hard on his ego.
2006-10-31 13:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey look your a preety cool guy and I'll admit I thought I liked you but to be honest I just don't feel that way about you and I don't want to put your precious time towards me.
2006-10-31 13:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by University Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With this kind of guy, nice and gentle is a sign of weakness. Be blunt and firm.
2006-10-31 13:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by melaskinados 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just flat out tell him, "Im sorry, but I just don't see this going anywhere" Men are pretty dense, you need to be straight up with them
2006-10-31 13:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by trs_shortie9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop taking his calls. Be unavailable. He should get the hint.
if he doesnt then simply tell him you aren't interested, its as simple as that.
2006-10-31 13:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by BlondeBarbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you are defiantly not interested, and maybe he should look else where
2006-10-31 13:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you have someone else
2006-10-31 13:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by acierman2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋