Does that mean that if we (boyfriend and I) are having issues staying pure with one another, and always thinking about sex after marriage, it is better to get married as soon as possible? Please explain this on a real-life applicable level. Thanks!
2006-10-31 12:57:34 · 17 answers · asked by reba 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
1. He specifically states it was his opinion rather than a command of God. 1Cor 7:6 I say those things to you as my advice, not as a command. 7 I wish all of you were like me. But you each have your own gift from God. One has this gift. Another has that.
2. Thinking about it in a positive sense is not bad, just don't go further. Paul continues the instructions: 1Cor 7:8 I speak to those who are not married. I also speak to widows. It is good for you to stay single like me. 9 But if you can’t control yourselves, you should get married. It is better to get married than to burn with sexual longing.
10 I give a command to those who are married. It is a direct command from the Lord, not from me. A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does, she must not get married again. Or she can go back to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
If you have trouble being close and not married, it would certainly be better to get married first than to skip that step. I knew a couple many years ago that moved a wedding date up TWICE, then just ELOPED. What you do on the "when?" question is up to you and maybe your family. If you are old enough and mature enough, do what you want on "when."
You seem to be off to a very good start, considering God's will in addition to your own desires.
Start every date with a prayer together. Ask God to give you His direction and the nerve + will to follow it.
God bless.
2006-10-31 12:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in short it is better for people to be married than to burn with an unhealthy sexual desire that is of the flesh. If you are tied/married to another then the sexual experience is only with your spouse - the one you are going to be faithful with. In that context then sexual relations are proper and the way God intended sex to happen.
If you or another are having sex outside the context of marriage then it is only for pleasure - especially your own pleasure. In a marriage you as well as the other should give up all things for the other person and nobody else.
Let me go this route - I am a single male and I am seeking out a wife. I should not have sex until after I am married. In that context it is the most incredible thing God ever made. If I stay single then it is because God never intended me to have a relationship with a woman (Getting Married) and you know, that is entirely fine - God never stated that every person needs to be married it is only those who cannot control their sexual impulses.
I am not stating that a single person is better than anyone else. It is a blessing either way and God loves those who are married as well as single.
2006-10-31 13:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by waeyeaw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He means better to be married than burn in passion. Since sexual relations were designed to operate within marriage...that is the meaning of this verse.
Don't get married just because you want to have sex. Cool off and think this through. Marriage is very complicated and you have to look at a number of things very carefully before taking that step.
2006-10-31 13:03:18 · answer #3 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already get it. Better to get married than to fall for temptation. If you can't keep your hands off each other, get married and have at it. Just make sure you are both on the same page, Christians should never marry non-believers. Make sure he truly is saved. Keep in mind that most churches offer premarital counseling these days, I highly recommend it. If you get married, do it for life because you will need that commitment to make it. It won't always be a bed of roses, there will be challenges. Don't let that discourage you from getting married to the right person. I love my wife and love my marriage, but it isn't free of challenge, it takes effort to make a good relationship last and last. The good news is, the right 2 people can not only make it last, they can make it grow and be even better than it was before. Image that! and you get to have sex too.
PRAY about it, oh please do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-31 13:07:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual pressure is not the best motive for getting married, but it is better to marry the right person than to "burn with lust." Many new believers in Corinth thought that all sex was wrong, and so engaged couples were deciding not to get married. In this passage, Paul was telling couples who wanted to marry that they should not frustrate their normal sexual drives by avoiding marriage. This does not mean, however, that people who have trouble controlling themselves should marry the first person who comes along. It is better to deal with the pressure of desire than to deal with an unhappy marriage.
2006-10-31 13:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by Freedom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, basically that's what he means. It's better to get married and be able to have as much sex as you want without it being considered a sin, than to wait on marriage and have a lot of pent-up sexual frustration. But I would not want to marry quickly anyway - it's better to take a bit more time and be SURE that your boy/girlfriend is the right person for you.
2006-10-31 13:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by Iamnotarobot (former believer) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1 Corinthians 7:9 is the scripture in question
to get a true meaning of this scripture you need to read the surrounding scripture. begin with vs 7 and read through vs 10
Paul practice abstinence after he converted to Christianity. He was saying that he thought it would be cool if everyone could abstain from having sex but we know that is unrealistic just as he did. It's better to marry than to burn is just his way of saying that if you are going to have sex it is better to find a spouse and marry than to risk dying and going to hell for living a life of sin.
1 Corinthians 6:17-20 teaches that our bodies are God's temple and when we have sex outside of marriage we are defiling His temple.
2006-10-31 13:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The truth is the Holy Spirit uses the word of God through Paul to bring us to the knowledge of our own sinfulness. Paul was never married. He said a lot of things in the bible that he clarified were his idea and not from God. God knows the thoughts and intents of your heart. Abstinence is not a calling for everybody because God's very first command was to "be fruitful and multipy". This procreative process is instilled in us and is a part of our "survival instinct". It is "normal". What Paul meant was to marry was preferable to the punishment of fornication. (Paul did not want to marry because he was not married when he was called)
1 John 2
1My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous:
2006-10-31 13:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to follow the Lord's laws concerning the desires of the body. Sex anything other than inside of marriage is a sin in the eyes of God!! The punishment of sin is death. The bible clearly states anyone who look at a woman in a lustfully manner is commiting adultery. Adulters will not enter the kingdom of heaven!!
2006-10-31 13:46:48 · answer #9 · answered by isbros 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A real-life applicable response... try masturbation. Not having sex is not going to kill either one of you, and getting married to have sex is a bad motive for marriage.
2006-10-31 13:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋