I already spent close to $300 for the dress, shoes, and bridal shower. I still need to pay for my hair to be done. I just don't know what amount I should give in the card. I feel I did enough already to be honest.
2006-10-31 12:38:17 · 19 answers · asked by wendy315 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would still give the couple a small gift...by agreeing to be in the wedding you agreed to all the costs you have incurred, but that doesn't mean you should give them a little something...a card and a check, maybe $50 or $100 would be great.
2006-10-31 12:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't about the $$$ ... it is about you being there. If you participated in the bridal shower and gave a gift there plus you participated in the bachelorette party, I think that you have summed up your duties.
If ou haven't done any of this, than I would start to guess at the relationship between you and the bride to be ... what kind of true friendship is there if you haven't participated.
Mostly, she just wants you there for support and to have a good time, if she is a good friend, that will be the best gift you can give her. That is the way I saw it at my wedding.
-EZ
2006-10-31 15:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure as though you've got the deal here. Your wedding attire, hair, makeup, etc, is for you to pay for. Bridal shower gift, good. What makes you so special that you can't give the bride and groom a nice wedding gift? Just cause you're in the wedding party? Seems kinda silly to me. You're giving a gift to both of them, if you want to give a gift, or money - it's up to you. But your friend is going to think it quite odd if you don't. Plain etiquite.
2006-10-31 13:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Kass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY BRIDESMAIDS ( aka four of my dear dear great friends)
spent 200.00 on a dress each
Over 1000.00 on my bridal shower as a group
And a priceless amount on love, friendship and bridezilla tolerance ( I was not that bad)
Did I expect a gift from them............did I expect a card with money....... OH HELL NO. Did some of them buy me a gift from my registry YES. Did they put their money together and get stripper 12 hours before my wedding YES. Did they run to the ATM machine and pay the limo driver 200.00 to take us to the venue when he refused to leave because I did not have the receipt from the limo company booking, and not let me know about it until I came BACK from my honeymoon, YES.
What the BRIDE needs from you does not come in a card, or your checking account.
2006-10-31 13:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by justthetwoofus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't give anything. Exactly as you said, you spent $300 for the dress and such. You are a member of the wedding not a guest. I wouldn't worry about it, I wouldn't allow my friend to give me anything since she was my maid of honor and she had to pay for her dress and didn't have much money as it was. You can get her a small inexpensive gift if you feel you want to contribute in such a way.
GOOD LUCK and Have Fun!
2006-10-31 13:13:19 · answer #5 · answered by afafae25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was recently helping a bride get ready for her wedding & one of the bridesmaids had bought pretty notebook & asked everyone at the house to write a personal note to the bride for her to read later-
I thought that was a wonderful personal touch & something for the couple to treasure & minimal cost
if you live in the same town - then instead of a cash gift maybe a ""voucher"" for you to go to their place once they return from the honeymmon & cook a special meal for them & wait on them ;clean up etc- then you leave & let them enjoy the rest of their night
2006-10-31 16:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always but her a nice gift or you can put anywhere from $25-$50 in the card.
2006-10-31 17:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by nygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with yourself.
If $20 is all you can afford, then give her $20.
Look at your budget and then determine how much you can spend.
My friends were in my wedding, and one of them gave me a painting she made herself. It probably cost $5 to get the frame, but it was wonderfully personal.
2006-10-31 13:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her what you can afford. Or go in with another bridesmaid and buy her something from her registry. I'm sure she'll understand if the gift is small...
My rule is, that if they spend $50 a plate on me and my date we should at least repay what they paid for our meal...
2006-10-31 18:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by dang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say $25-50 is an acceptable amount.
2006-10-31 12:55:02 · answer #10 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋