should i dump him?

Question

I've been, talking to this guy for a while now, and we've been sexually active, but it's like the only time he acts like he wants to touch me is when we're in bed. i wouldn't want to offend him, but he's the thug type, trying to act all hard n stuff. but sometimes i think he really cares but doesn't want to seem soft. he is my first everything, and one minute i'm saying i could be done with him today, then the next, i'm craving him something fierce. i would love it he just hugged me everytime he saw, or wanted to hold my hand for a little bit. it's like he can't even stand for me to lay my head on his chest. what should i tell him, how should i go about asking him to be more affectionate. i asked him to hug me the way he did the first time we met, and he said no, but you know bad boys have to bluff alot. is that all he's doing? please give me some suggestions ladies, and guys who know how to treat a girl.

and if you're the gansta type, how would you treat a girl that like you and was very affectionate? and also how would you treat a girl that YOU liked?

Answer 1

i think you just need to sit him down tell him how you really feel and let him know if he cant treat you how a boyfriend does then he shouldnt be doing things with you like a boyfriend and that your sure you could find someone else to appreciate you gurl you cant waste your time on guys like that if he cant even hug you damn there are plenty of guys out there that would like a gurl like you seems to me he doesnt want the emotional responsibility of havign a girlfreind he just wants the fun part out of it so dunt put yourself through that i myself have been with thugs like that and its not worth wasting your time with him when you could be spending it with someone who really appreciates you

Answer 2

This kind of reminds me of something that happened to me a long, long time ago. I was out at a bar one night when.......................... This really beautiful gal bumped right into me and spilled beer on my shirt. No big deal really I used to do it to myself regularly in those days. Anyway, she was embarassed and was saying how sorry she was and her boyfriend came up and started giving her a hard time about it saying she was flirting and became pretty abusive and so I stepped in and long story short, we came to blows. I used to fight alot back then and it was over pretty quick. She and I left together and over the next few weeks became rather close. It was during those first weeks together that she told me she had a glass eye. She had lost her eye in an auto accident when she was a child. You would never have known if she hadn't told you. Well, our relationship started getting pretty physical and alittle bit kinky as time went on and we started experimenting with some things involving the glass eye being removed. I was afraid it would hurt her but she said it didn't and always insisted we do it that way. We had several months of great times together but my job demanded that I relocate so the time came that we had to say good-bye. It was hard but it had to be and on the day I had to go it was pretty emotoional. I told her that I would be back that way some day and choking back a tear she said that she would keep an eye out for me.

Answer 3

Kick him to the curb. If he really likes you, then he'll striaghten up and start acting like it. If he doesn't do that, then you have your answer. Just because he is "The Thug Type" doesn't give him the right to treat you like he's treating you. Why are you letting him? "Thug Type" = "Lame azz".

Answer 4

i got to say i dont understand the thug thing. seriously it seems pretty gay. I say just be friends with benefits. Sounds like you want the sex and not the relationship.

Answer 5

tell him he needs to make some changes or you will leave him

Answer 6

hunny dump him