recently for my 18th birthday i decided to chill wit my ex...so we went to a hotel and did our thing...we didnt have sex tho...ok i just chilled wit him because i needed/wanted a little bit of affection.now hes trying to get back with me....dont ge me wrong he's a cool guy...but im not sure if im ready to get back into a serios relationship.i offere him an open relationship he says thats dumb and stupid...so guys what should i do...should i get back wit him he's os crazy over me??
2006-10-31 11:42:33 · 21 answers · asked by tiffani0611 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No....b/c that's not what you want....You have to be happy too, not just him....
2006-10-31 11:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by JennyAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what, something is wrong w/ you too... Why go with him in a hotel teasing him sexually... Your trip? If you are sure of your feeling towards that guy, don't play his emotion... Open relation to a serious man is an insult... Look at this,,,you will have open relation w/ him, then you are free to be in relation w/ other guy... when you are w/ with him do sex w/ him and with others do sex w/ them too... Is that proper for an upright girl like you....If you don't want him, say straight no.... You still very young baby.. Take your time !
2006-10-31 12:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want to. Only you can answer that question. You have to follow your heart. There is a reason he is your ex, think about those reasons. IF you are not ready for something serious, then it's not gonna work out, because you wont put your all into it. Follow your heart and do what you know its right for the situation and time you are in your life. Good luck.
2006-10-31 11:47:01 · answer #3 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you have doubts, which you do because you are asking us. You need time and he doesn't need to be able to run to you whenever he needs you. That's not fair to either. Give it time and if it's meant to be it will. You are young and having fun and getting to know who you are is what you need to be doing. This can include him if he wants but if he's posessive, don't go there. That's not a good sign. They usually don't trust and that can cause you a lot of heart ache and misery..take it from me. Give him time off for now and see how he acts for at least several months, then you can tell how mature or inmature he is.
2006-10-31 11:48:43 · answer #4 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was your reason for breaking up in the first place?!? IF he cheated on you or mistreated you I would say no! If you love him and want to be with him then go be with him. BUT, otherwise do not lead him on! Sounds like you aren't ready for a mature grownup relationship!
2006-10-31 11:47:40 · answer #5 · answered by herbie36f 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think by going out with him to the hotel even just to cuddle and hug is a way of teasing him and that is really mean on your part, there is nobody else who can decide if you want to go back with him except you but it seem not out of love you just want to use him for display or power trip, maybe?
2006-10-31 11:50:40 · answer #6 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your heart is telling you to go the opposite direction
so obey it and dont go back
your ex knows that you dont want to be tyed down on a serious relationship right now
and if he cant understand and accept that then you have to let him know that your heart is not into it and you wont be coming back to him as your partner
2006-10-31 11:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to listen to your heart if your not ready that no u shouldnt dont get back with him just because he wants to get back with you. and if he cant respact that then u need to tell him to get losted and if the realtionship didnt work the first time it wont then 2nd time trust me i went out with this one girl 4 times and ever time it end the same way with a big fight.
2006-10-31 11:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! your too young you Do need to spend a lot more time in english and spelling class tho cuz if you write to tell him anything he will probably have a heck of a time figuring out what it says
2006-10-31 11:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by lostguide 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think for now that you arent pretty much sure bout your feelings, dont go for it. you really have to be sure bout your feelings for him before getting back. who knows, you dont love him at all and you just find his company a good one. it's better to think bout it so there would be no regrets ahead of you.. and one more thing if he wants you back because he LOVES YOU, well he can wait, right?!
2006-10-31 11:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by ems 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha.... don't do it.... have fun if your not ready then your not ready. he will be around.... just make sure you keep a good relationship with him.... talk to him like 2X a week so when your ready he will be there. but when you talk don't mention guy's it will hurt him.
2006-10-31 11:46:30 · answer #11 · answered by sierrajones37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋